Having a tough time......

I've never posted anything here before, or in fact anywhere else. Just having a tough time and am hoping for someone to come along and give me a pep talk!

Over the last couple of weeks I have been feeling low and anxious. To give you so,e background, I'm in my early 30's with a baby and husband, work full time with a demanding career. My dad died suddenly last spring, leaving me and my family devastated. The following months were difficult, but felt as though I'd come through the worst of it.

The last couple of weeks have been awful. I constantly feel anxious. When at work I feel on edge and struggle to concentrate. Already, right now, I feel panicky about going to work on Monday knowing that I have a hectic day and wonder if I can cope.scared I will have a panic attack and people will this km I'm stupid and can't cope.

My husband has no idea I feel like this as I don't want him to worry or think I'm loosing my marbles!!

On top of that, I'm finishing a masters degree, my mum is a constant source of worry, and ,y daughter has been admitted to hospital twice in the last couple of months having had seizures due to high temperature. Something she will grow out of apparently!!!

Having written all of this down, it does seem like a lot to deal with and I just want some help to get back to being "me" again......

Can anyone offer me a much needed pep talk?

Xx

[donaf]

Hi ya, it really does seem alot to deal with and iits wouder ur feeling so down and anxious. Try telling ur husband how u feel, i thought my other half would think i was losing it but to b honest he was very supportive after i explained it all to him. Im in my early 30s with two young boys. All i thought about day and nite was my anxiety, i wud sit there waiting for an anxiety attack and was worried to go anywhere because of it.i was a having a few anxiety attacks a day, everyday. On top of that i felt depressed and felt like i wud always feel that way. Have u been to ur doctors? I went and had diazapan first to take wen i had an anxiety attack. I dont need them now im on anti dressants which have helped alot. The more u think of ur anxiety the more u will get it. Wen ur at work and u feel anxiety coming talk to it in ur head tell it to come dont fight it. Its easyer said then done, but u can do it and u will get better. I hope u start feeling better soon xxx

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Thank you donaf x

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Hi & welcome

You certainly have had some very emotional times that you have had to go through

You have had so much to deal with , I feel some time out would be a help , dont no if thats possible ?

I would tell your hubby how you feel , i am sure he wouldnt feel you had lost your marbles at all , I think they sometimes no when there is something wrong & it can be a relief when we tell them , for them & us , & his support would be a huge help to you

My hubby has lived with me & anxiety for 20 years , & he doesnt think I have lost my marbles , but it would put so much pressure on me if I had to hide it from him , not that I think I could

The fear of anxiety makes the anxiety worse , they talk about acceptance , accepting how you feel , the more you can , the less control it has on us , its easier said than done , but with practice lots have found this very helpful

As said already , it would be helpful to see your GP & let them no how you are feeling , there is so much help now , I would urge anyone that its starting to feel this way not to leave it years like I did

Keep posting & getting support , its a great site

whywhy xxx

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I agree with whywhy..........don,t fight it alone as I did for years,..........and things only got better when I went to docs and took some anti-depressants. remember they don,t have to be forever ,just to give you some breathing space.

I would explain to your hubby and i,m sure he will support you.I know people who take them and have not told their partener, scared of what reaction they receive....although I now think thats sad, I understand as when I was first offered them I felt as if to take them was a weakness and felt that my wife would feel the same......instead she was glad I was doing something about it....today i,m well thanks to swallowing my ego and pride.xx

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Thank you for your replies! I felt a sense of relief just reading them, knowing its not just me! Anti depressants aren't really the way I want to go, can anyone recommend any self help that I could try? Thanks again xx

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Hi

You can ask your GP for some councelling , I havnt been for that in years , but they say its changed so much now & people have found it a huge help on here , I am hoping to get some soon as I dont like the thoughts of tablets , its worth a try ?

If you go to your health shop , you could maybe get some vitamins etc , again lots take them & think they are great & have helped , everything is worth a go , if it works thats a bonus , if it doesnt , you wont be any worse of than you are now , well thats what i always say to myself

Let us no how you go on

whywhy xxx

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Keep talking & let people support you , dont be afraid to say how you feel , I think this is important as well

[donaf]

Kalms? I dont know if they work as ive neva tried them, but anything is worth ago wen ur stuck in the circle of anxiety and depression x

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Thanks everyone. I definitely need to do something about how I'm feeling, life is too short not to get the most out of it. I want to be the best mummy I can be to my daughter, the best wife to my husband, and to my family proud through my career. Most of all, I want to just be happy and feel loved.

Thanks for the tips why why, will definitely look at the vitamins. Exercise can help too can't it? I already do yoga but may need something a bit more challenging.

I spoke with my husband earlier, just started talking about my dad and he cried too. He said its a trying time for all of us, but spmost of the time when I'm feeling down he just says that I'm being 'miserable' o have an 'attitude' which really doesn't help!

Going to talk things through with my GP too the next couple of weeks.

Thanks so much again, just writing things down has helped more than I can say xxx