Therapist Taking Advantage?

[UnsureQueen]

I have been feeling angry lately. I think I know why. My therapist talks about his marriage problems, kids, legal problems, his past traumas, and his anxiety. I feel like he's taking emotional advantage of me. He tells me I am his favorite patient.Thanks me for being so kind to him. He told me some of his patients are mean to him and yell at him. He was very excited when the patient after me cancelled, he said we could go for an extra hour. I thought it was inappropriate. I got upset during our last session he started talking about himself again. I said I don't really care. He nervously laughed, and kept going!! He did not even ask why I was upset. Anyway. I am feeling a little like I don't know what is going on and confused. There's a lot more. But I will stop here.

[litethatnevergoesout]

uhh that’s not remotely appropriate. there’s no boundaries there I hope you find another therapist.

[MadBunny]

Time to change therapist and report him to the appropriate professional body.

[GrillMan]

Drop that therapist like a hot potato. So very unprofessional.

[Artistfriend]

listen to your feelings, trust your instincts, theres good help available

[Nothing_but_books]

Therapist is using you to get therapy for free. Drop him, or start charging an hourly rate.

[Agora1 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

NBB I'd go for the hourly rate lol xx

What the heck. Who is the professional here?

[UnsureQueen in reply to Nothing_but_books]

I should charge him for the previous sessions. Send him a bill. 🤑

[bethelbee in reply to UnsureQueen]

I would!

[Shnookie in reply to Nothing_but_books]

lol 😂

[Alivefor1320]

who is paying who? Good therapists that we jive with are hard to find but, yours sound exhausting. Move on....

[UnsureQueen in reply to Alivefor1320]

I am tired. He's pathetic

[blackcat64013]

This one time to be sure of yourself. That therapist is unprofessional and should be reported to the professional body. You don't have take that crap anymore or waste your money and time. Time to look elsewhere and don't look back

[momander]

Hi UnsureQueen,I am so sorry you have experieinced this . I am a therapist and have never used client time to discuss my own issues. That is very unprofessional and moraly wrong. It is difficult when you are the client ( I have been one) as you are vulnerable and are there because you are hoping to be listened to and supported. If a client asks me a question about my private life I will answer if I feel it helps the client, but I don't elaborate as it then becomes MY session and not theirs. Would you consider finding another therapist? or talking to your therapist and telling him you are very uncomfortable with his behaviour? I'm guessing you are paying him for his services? If so then he is getting free counselling from you!! I really hope you find a way to sort this out. Take care. Xx

[MaggieSylvie]

If he's not using his own experience as examples to aid helping you, it is unprofessional. It might be unprofessional anyway. Also, he gave you an extra hour for his own benefit - not yours. You could pay someone who is not too bound up in their own problems and would be able to offer you better support without requiring support in return (as well as payment). Try and switch therapists.

[Hotmessmama]

Ugh my therapist every time I bring something up that I need to talk about she turns it into a whole convo about herself and I end up not getting help with anything very frustrating but she is the only therapist that except my insurance at the office where I do my medication management so frustrating. So I feel your frustration

[UnsureQueen in reply to Hotmessmama]

I am sorry your therapist is inappropriate as well. 😟

[bethelbee in reply to Hotmessmama]

I would speak up and say it is YOUR session not hers. She is highly unprofessional. Tell her you are not getting the help you need. If it continues, report her. Is there another office you can go to for counselling?

[AlwaysaSurvivor]

Not only is he taking advantage of you, but his behavior is totally unethical and unprofessional. I would report him to whoever governs therapists in your area. That is totally unheard of! Please look for another therapist and one who will listen to you and not bring their personal situations into the conversation. I'm so sorry you experienced this.