People....

[Italianmomma]

Are there any specific people who trigger your anxiety, and if so, why?

Some of my friends.

They just don't understand what it's like to have anxiety and they think it's all in my head. Like really??? Are you serious????

[Downandout123]

I can't think of anyone ( in my life right now) who triggers my anxiety but it's so true that people who themselves don't experience anxiety and depression, don't understand it.

[Italianmomma in reply to Downandout123]

They really don't understand what it's like to have it and go through it. I wish people were more aware of mental illness. 🥺

[Mmabear in reply to Italianmomma]

Anxiety isn’t a form of mental illness. It’s hard to explain really unless you experience yourself. It’s the feeling of uneasiness, a sense of nervousness that you can’t pin point but it’s there full blown. It can be a person, a place or an outcome for some that can trigger anxiety. For me, it’s always been spot on about people and or if I’m in a new surrounding. If I feel anxiety, I listen to it. It can feel like a heart attack almost, the pressure in the chest can be very intense, like you can’t catch your breath and you need to. It’s more than just a feeling though. It’s your body telling you something. Whatever that may be.

[Italianmomma in reply to Mmabear]

Anxiety is a mental illness. Just like depression, OCD, and Bipolar.

That's what it's classified under.

I agree with everything you said about how you feel. That is very true. Everyone reacts to it differently and has different symptoms. But it all adds up to anxiety.

Thank you for your comment.

I like your user name.🐻

[Mmabear in reply to Italianmomma]

It’s not but I’m not here to prove right or wrong.

[Italianmomma in reply to Mmabear]

No worries.But if you Google it or ask your doctor it is.

[Minou123 in reply to Italianmomma]

Hi. I stopped Googling....l go on utube...people tell thier life stories..When l feel this way l scream in my pillow

Go by myself and do the breathing excises

Hold till.count of 7 through my nose

Stomach should be almost flat chest rising

Breathe out through your mouth slowly

It helps me com ...takes a bit

When someone says really you have this

I think your so perfect...ignore comment and turn away ...they will never understand

[Italianmomma in reply to Minou123]

I like You Tube too.Sounds like you have a good way of calming down. Breathing exercises seem to help. I like meditation it seems like it keeps me grounded and focused.

Yes I do ignore them. They will never understand so I don't waste to much time even bothering with them. That's wasted time that I can't get back.

Thanks for your comment.

I appreciate it!!

Hugs xoxo

[Italianmomma in reply to Downandout123]

And more educated too.

[Mtndogg12]

Yes!!! One particular person, just his name makes me feel sad. I think it’s so important to not be around people who trigger us but sometimes there’s no choice and it’s so difficult and actually torture!

If I’m around this person, my mood changes and I can go in to a depression. He was very cruel and a narcissist.

[Italianmomma in reply to Mtndogg12]

Narcissist people are not good to be around I had one in my life and I had to get away from him.

[Italianmomma]

I'm so sorry to hear about this person and how they make you feel. Just remember it's not your fault. They need to be more sympathetic and understanding.

And being cruel and a narcissist would make me depressed.

Thank you so much for your comment.

Hugs xoxo

[fauxartist]

Yes... cruel, ignorant, racist, misogynistic, small-minded narcissists with passive-aggressive tendencies....

[Italianmomma in reply to fauxartist]

He sounds like a narcissist. Narcissist too have their own issues. My friend had anger problems too. He was a miserable person to be around.

[fauxartist in reply to Italianmomma]

Yeah... they can be emotional vampires...anxiety and depression are the battle we endure everyday trying to get on with life the same as people without these issues. We have to work harder to do that, and when we are dismissed...it's unfair and infuriating at times because we didn't ask for this, and we didn't deserve it, and we did nothing wrong....it just is what it is for us. People who are dismissive don't deserve our time, I put up boundaries and don't allow them to get too close to me emotionally. Others who have compassion and understanding are in my orbit nowadays....I don't have much time left on this planet to deal with any B.S.

[Italianmomma in reply to fauxartist]

Your exactly right. I love your comment.Sometimes I wish that if they had anxiety that they would understand it more. For us that have it we have to live with it the rest of our lifes. I wouldn't wish that upon anybody. I don't like the B.S. either.

Don't want it and don't need it.

For the people who understand it. Those are the ones that I keep in my circle.

Thank you so much for your comment.

You said and wrote it well.

Hugs xoxo

[Lifesearching]

it’s not on your head at all, people know what they’re doing and they think you’re not smart enough to notice. It’s for some reason for me other females who just play in my face when my bf or other men are re around. They get passive aggressive and weird and I’m trying super hard to show I’m on their side. Someone can tell me if I’m being too sensitive or self centered too, bc I’ve been avoiding certain people lately bc of it.but they’re extremely good at acting nice to me when the boys are around lol then in private conversations, they’re all of a sudden too sick to talk or can’t hang out anymore, or they have very weird backhanded comments. I’ve lied straight to peoples faces without guilt if they ask super personal questions about my bf to protect my peace. It’s cool when they ask me personal questions, but if I ask the same to them, it’s wrong lol

[Italianmomma in reply to Lifesearching]

I don't trust people like them.I don't like when they ask me personal questions. I won't say much too them.

Sounds like a one sided relationship. They want to know about you but they won't tell you about them. That's not right.🥺

[Lifesearching in reply to Italianmomma]

Thank you for understanding me🥺

[Italianmomma in reply to Lifesearching]

Your welcome. ❤️🤗

[Italianmomma]

I know its not in my head. I was diagnosed from a doctor that told me I had anxiety. But they still don't believe it.

Sounds like these people are phony. They act one way and then they switch up on you.

I guess they don't think that you can't see right through them. I would keep my distance from them.

Thanks for your comment!!!!

Hugs and Love xoxo

[Lifesearching in reply to Italianmomma]

No it’s not in your head you sound like a very smart person! Especially with your experiences. The hardest part is the people who introduced me to them don’t see their fake side! So I’m forced to act like everything is all cool. I’ve been praying the fakeness is exposed🙏🏽but it’s taking awhile. I appreciate your advice🙏🏽🙏🏽

[Italianmomma]

I'm not Einstein.lol But I know what I have and its real.

Trust me the fakeness will come out. It might take awhile for them to see it. But you see it. You are good at figuring out people. I can tell just by what you write. Your a smart person too❣️🙏

[Lifesearching in reply to Italianmomma]

Thank u, I think I’ve just been thru a lot where I understand people don’t always mean what they say. Their facial expressions, body language, or actions give them away immediately💙💙

[Italianmomma in reply to Lifesearching]

Sometimes I can tell in their eyes when their lying. Or by just what their saying. You can tell when people are sincere. 💕

[grab0001]

yes! Some of my friends do because I feel like they are very high maintenance to keep happy and are judgmental of others sometimes so I feel like they might judge me too. Past exes of course for the obvious reasons. My boyfriends family because I want to impress them. Honestly even my own family sometimes because I moved to a different state years ago and I feel like I get nervous being myself around them for the sole reason of I can only see them a couple times a year and my social anxiety makes me act weird around them even though they never gave me a reason too. I also get anxious around friends from high school because there is some trauma bonding there. It’s definitely understandable to be anxious around certain people especially those who don’t understand anxiety and how it affects people. To those people I almost say I’m glad they don’t know what anxiety is or how it feels but I never understood why some people can’t just be more empathetic?? Like even if you don’t understand, one should always try to but people don’t seem to be empathetic anymore

[Italianmomma]

Sorry to hear you have such a hard time around people. I wish they would be more empathetic. Maybe we're expecting too much from them???? I always try to put myself in there situation and try to understand how their feeling. But that's just me. People aren't really empathetic anymore. It's sad.

Thank you for your comment.

I'm glad you understand.

I appreciate it!!!

Hugs xoxo

[Martina777]

lots of people triggers me anxiety and stress. Loud kids, rude people, crowded places, people that have stinky attitude etc. In the last few months I have found it that I really enjoy my solitude, I purposely took myself out of the people and situation that don’t suit me needs or likes, and must say I have been feeling better. I realised as well that now I need to build that connection with someone to be friends with them or have similar life perspective, if it’s not there I don’t even bother with continuing any form or “ situation ship “ I think that comes with age and life experience as well, I’m sick of people that think they are entitled, or that they know better, or they littering! Oh there is so many things that triggers me! Choose worthy and kind people to be around, not just any random Karen or John on the street. You don’t need people in your life that don’t bring any good emotions or feelings within you, trust me.

[Italianmomma]

I bet you do feel better. You got rid of the negativity that these people made you feel.I think having positive people around makes all the difference in the world. And I'm starting to see that. I do have some that are there for me and a few that just aren't.

Sounds like you have peace of mind.

And that is priceless.

Thank you for the advice.

Hugs xoxo

[Nothingelsematters]

Very much so.

[Italianmomma in reply to Nothingelsematters]

If you don't mind me asking you, who are they?

[Italianmomma in reply to Italianmomma]

Sorry. This reply went to the wrong person. It was for someone else

[Italianmomma in reply to Nothingelsematters]

I'm glad!!!!👍😀

[Beloved01]

My natural instinct is to avoid triggers, but I'd force myself to do the exact opposite... sometimes I end up in a state of shock even panic attacks,it has not been easy at all...I do so gradually, like I stop once I reach my limit, since avoidance is not an option.

[Italianmomma in reply to Beloved01]

Sorry that your not able to avoid your triggers.And that they give you panic attacks.

That's not a good feeling to have to go through.

Sounds like you your trying.

Hope things get better and your able to manage the panic attacks that your having.

Thank you for your comment.

Healing Hugs!!!xoxo

[SarahJane1471]

yes my mum and my daughter…….🤷‍♀️

[Italianmomma]

Sorry to hear about your mum and daughter.If you don't mind me asking why do they trigger your anxiety?

[moxond]

Hi Sure some people don't have best of interests at Heart they can play with the self esteem consciousness playing with morality and name blaming not representing values

[Italianmomma in reply to moxond]

That's a good way of describing people. And your absolutely right.

I like your comment !!!

Thank you for it. I really appreciate it!!!

Hugs xoxo

[gettingsomewhere]

Narcissists or those inclined that way trigger me!I've encountered a few people with these traits over the years.

A rise in anxiety serves me well as a warning to stay away. Anxiety has protected me! It's catching it in time and realising what's going on!

[Italianmomma in reply to gettingsomewhere]

I had one in my life and I had to get away from him. My anxiety got so bad having to listen to him. He tried to bring me down. But I wouldn't let him. And my life is so much better.🙏

[gettingsomewhere in reply to Italianmomma]

Well done for getting away!

[Italianmomma in reply to gettingsomewhere]

Thanks! I had too for my own peace of mind.🙏😊

[DJB74]

People who lack empathy and spew hate.

[Italianmomma in reply to DJB74]

I wish people were more understanding. And understood how it is to have anxiety.

I guess I expect everyone too. I know I would be. But we're all different.

Thank you for your comment.

Hugs xoxo

[SsgCulldelight]

Hey don't be fooled they've just mastered how to mask their anxiety, but let the unbalanced circumstances arise and you'll see them lose it a bit too. It's ok to have that happen, but people are judgemental, all of us, and until we can check that ego we will continue to let stuff bother us, it's OK long as u don't hurt yourself or no one else. It'll get better

[Italianmomma in reply to SsgCulldelight]

Thank you for understanding. I appreciate it.

Yes and of course stay safe and don't hurt anyone else. I hope it does get better.

Hugs xoxo

[DJB74]

That's the biggest problem with the whole world is the lack of empathy. Noone takes the time to see the human side of people and how other people struggle or care so long as it doesn't affect them. That's not my heart or my attitude. I feel people's pain internally. I love to talk and listen with the goal of understanding more of how a person arrived at the place they are.

[Italianmomma in reply to DJB74]

I know I've experienced how people don't care. Where I'm the total opposite. I'm a very caring person and listen and try to help people. And am understanding too.

Sounds like me and you have alot in common when dealing with people.

Thanks for explaining it so well.

I get it. I wish more people would.

Hugs xoxo

[DJB74]

Any time you'd like to chat, Im around

[Italianmomma in reply to DJB74]

Thanks! I really appreciate your kindness.

[DJB74 in reply to Italianmomma]

You are welcome. Sometimes it's all I have left.

[Italianmomma in reply to DJB74]

😊 You have all of us at HealthUnlocked.

[CalicoKi]

I am an empath and highly sensitive.Dealing with energy vampires that unintentionally or intentionally drain my energy leave me feeling ungrounded and anxious.

[Italianmomma in reply to CalicoKi]

I know they can do that to you.Try to stay away from them as much as possible. You will feel alot better.

[SlingBlade3]

The people who tend to make me anxious are the folks that talk incessantly yammering on but mostly about themselves .. narcissist people .. I've excised those from my life out of necessity. Anyone I know who doesn't take my condition seriously like the people who say it's all in your head? I got rid of that dead wood long ago. I don't have the energy and patience at my age to constantly cut emotionally immature people slack like I used to

[Italianmomma]

I had a friend that was a Narcissist. Always angry. Never had nothing good to say about anyone or anything. Not happy.

I had to cut him out of my life too. And it's alot better without hearing it and being around it.

I know anxiety is not in my head. I wish people would understand that. But they have their own beliefs. So I let them believe what they want.

Thanks for your comment.

I appreciate it alot.

Hugs xoxo

[Arabianhorselover]

Unfortunately, it is my husband who is the biggest trigger for my anxiety. Just his personality being extremely different than mine, and him always running around trying to do too many things all day every day.

[Italianmomma in reply to Arabianhorselover]

Having your husband being your trigger can be extremely hard. That's someone that your married to have and have to spend the rest of your life with.

Sounds like he's very active and likes to stay busy. That can get exhausting at times.

I like doing things too. But I like my relaxing time. My me time.

Thanks for your comment.

Hugs xoxo