How to deal with rejection

[EnergeticTortoise]

I have reunited with a man a had a 5 year long relationship with. After being together for so long we separated for four years. I'm not proud to have broken up his situation he had with another lady when I came back. I was going through crisis and needed his familiarity as well as some place to stay.Recently, I just asked him why he never said he loves me anymore. He hemmed and hawed.

He didn't want to say that he just doesn't love me.

I don't know why?

This time we have been together for three years, and I don't know if we have grown apart naturally? Or if I've done something...

Any input would be greatly appreciated. I'm constantly facing his rejection, becoming more insecure, and with existing mental illness it's starting to compound into a bigger issue.

Ya, any advice would be appreciated, I have no where else to stay and a stack of problems including a fairly recent hospitalization for grand mal seizures. So, I rely on him more than I should.

Just feel stuck and rejected.

[EnergeticTortoise]

Thank You

[EnergeticTortoise]

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[bethelbee]

Sometimes people just grow apart. Did he ever say he loved you during your time together before? Big red flag to me when you stated 'I am constantly facing his rejection'. Don't ever just settle for someone. You deserve better than that. It's one thing if you know he doesn't feel the same and you are ok with it, but it sounds like you are not since it is affecting your mental health. You may want to find another place to live. This relationship doesn't sound healthy at all IMHO. Is that other woman still in the picture?? Hope things work out for you.

[EnergeticTortoise in reply to bethelbee]

What is IMHO? Thank you good advice. YES, other lady is around. He said She is His best friend, they talk almost every day. She gets him gifts, I'm unemployed due to knee injury, seizures. .bla bla...

Your right I've got to Woman-up and quit this, quit caring, or find another living arrangement, I don't know where I could go that could handle strings of Grand Mal seizures, and after occurring issues..any suggestions?

Again, thank you

[bethelbee in reply to EnergeticTortoise]

You're welcome. I wish I had a suggestion about where to go but I don't. Can you talk to social services? They might be able to help.(IMHO stands for 'in my honest opinion')

[Florida1959]

I think people just grow apart. or it becomes comfortable, Has he ever said he loved you ?? . Don't be second best - you deserve better than that. Does he feel the same yet you as seem to be not ok with it now if it is affecting you so much - maybe you need a fresh start - new beginning, takes guts but you can do it, love yourself as much as you love him, ? Hope you can get through this and become the strong beautiful person you are.

[EnergeticTortoise in reply to Florida1959]

Thank You

[Jennblank7734]

I would try taking advantage of the fact he will help you if you have no one else. Separate yourself some. Focus on your goals. Focus on your self improvement. If he doesn't feel like he once did, realize people and situations change naturally. Find ways to understand this so you can stop blaming yourself.