Hello. I'm new here. I'm going through quite a bit right now which I imagine many of us are. I've had some sort of issue with anxiety/worry/overthinking for a long time I guess, but I thought it was how everyone was. Add that onto major body image issues due to being obese part of my life to having a gastric bypass and getting much thinner. I don't always see myself on the thinner side and I'm very critical of myself, my weight, etc. I honestly think it has heightened my anxiety tremendously. Now, last week my husband of just shy of 3 years, but partner as of 12 years says he wants to separate. Many of the remarks he brought up have to do with showing him enough respect, speaking nicely to him, nagging or being critical. It makes my heart so sad because I know what he's talking about. My anxiety can make me be very irritable and critical and he has to deal with it We've been going through a rough patch since the start of December where he told me some issues he was having, but never mentioned separating just being friends while "I get myself happier". My anxiety was high then and settled as I started taking some calming powders like magnesium and instinol. I've been taking holy basil, tryptophan, theanine and some other amino acids as well. Ever since he told me this last week I feel like I've had an anxiety attack at least every hour when I'm awake sometimes more then that in an hour. The worse part of it is he is completely unwilling to try and work it out. So I've been sleeping in the guest room for a few nights. It's so odd because he says I can stay for however long I want, we carpool to work still, share a bank account. I feel like I spend all my time analyzing what may happen. I was told I need to lose my expectations, but I have no idea how to do that.
I'm going to therapy (she is a LMFT), I went to a general doctor on Friday and he prescribed me Lexapro liquid form (gastric bypass patient) 10mg for the first week then 20mg after. How long does it take to see if it helps? A couple of weeks? I've been reading self help books, trying to learn to meditate/self hypnosis for positive body affirmations, going to my therapist, taking my vitamins/supplements, eating healthy, working out. What else can I do? Do I need to see another type of doctor/therapist? Any suggestions would be great.
I know when you are going through a separation you are heart broken generally and upset so being anxious is probably normal, but this feels so intense it's pretty unbearable. I'm at work right now and my muscles are so tense I just want to lay down to rest. I hate this feeling