is this real

[Agara33]

I just sent a message to a therapist on WhatsApp who asked me what is the reason for me coming to therapy-via WhatsApp..I wrote something short but honest—-and she disappeared. Not even-I don’t think I’m the person for you or anything-just vanished….

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Agara,

I'm really sorry this happened to you.

I understand it's tough with bad therapy experiences and this wasn't even started.

I don't think there are many ptsd therapists but they are really special people.

I hope one will be available to you soon...

How are you doing?

[Agara33 in reply to Nathalie99]

Fine I guess-what kind of therapist ghosts someone?

[Agara33 in reply to Agara33]

She finally answered…but that seriously triggered me…I found it pretty weird to answer to answer right away-then disappear for a couple hours after I wrote her why I’m coming to therapy and then answer right away again…or maybe that’s normal..I don’t know

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Agara33]

I don't know what's normal...I guess it depends.She might have had a session in between or got distracted.

I am very sorry that it's been triggering.

[Dolphin14 Moderator]

Agara33

The only thing I can think of is maybe the therapist had another appointment to get to?

The psych community is very strict with time frames.

I'm sorry you felt ghosted. I think a quick " let me get back to you" would have been more professional.

If you choose this person maybe you should tell them how you felt with that experience and maybe she will be able to explain

❤️🐬

[Mamamichl in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes. Always be upfront with your therapist. They are generally professional enough to get feedback

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Mamamichl]

Agree, Mamamichl.

My therapist said she needs feedback...

[hypercat54]

Very good advice from Nathalie and Dolphin. My first thought was she had an emergency or something. Give her the benefit of the doubt but do ask her to explain.

Good luck with her and I hope she is a good fit for you.

[Agara33]

thank you for the feedback-I think the thing is that I shared something pretty personal-it already felt weird to me that it was on WhatsApp…and then to not say a word didn’t feel like the natural response-I started questioning if it was right for me to share with her at all

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Agara33]

You did the right thing, answering her questions, in my opinion, Agara.

the only thoughts that come to my mind would be perhaps telling her that you prefer to share such things in person rather than WhatsApp.

I either do a phone call (with video usually, so I can see facial expressions and feel the connection with my therapist- which is pretty important in trauma therapy, in my personal experience), or ideally, meet in person, if possible.

You have the right to give her feedback...

I am really sorry that it happened in such a way that it triggered you.

[BrainIsFull in reply to Agara33]

I can see how it would have been triggering. Sharing personal information puts you in a vulnerable place. I have had similar reactions when vetting therapists. And I actually had a really positive experience with giving some very honest feedback to one of the therapists.

It's also important to remember that therapists are human beings and they aren't perfect!

[Agara33]

thank you✨