Im so upset of myself just so much anger with tears in me ..

[Johnnie1234]

hey guys so today its not the day for me so my girlfriend is trying to book a vacation for us to florida on july 16th till the 20th and i can't do it because guess what im scared of flying on plane im scared of hieghts and its just to much negative thoughts im so mad that she booked the airbnb and everything now im telling her no and she's a bit mad at me i just cant fight my fears i havent been on a plane about 7 years maybe but im not even on the plane yet and my head feels numb and i feel nervous and scared im just so mad because i want do things with my girlfriend but yes i admit im scared of going on a plane it just sucks im mad at myself to be honest .

[Agora1]

Hi Johnnie, sorry to hear that you are already going through anticipatory

anxiety. It's tough I know. The thought is just as real and strong as you going.

How did it all come about that she booked everything? Had you two discuss

your fears of flying first?

What do you want to see happen at this point? You have a couple options,

Cancel and lose money and have her mad at you OR...get your doctor to give

you some meds to relax you on the flight. What do you think??

[Johnnie1234 in reply to Agora1]

no i never told her dont want her to think anything how can i be relax its only a two hour flight i just dont know how would i feel when im on the plane.

[Agora1 in reply to Johnnie1234]

I don't know how good you are at meditation, because that could help you

immensely. You might need to have a little something to take just for the

flight. Talk to your doctor or therapist. Just don't be angry with yourself.

We all have fears of different things in our lives. That's why I always have

a Plan B to go to. Don't miss the trip Johnnie, you'll regret that instead

go with a Plan B. xx

[Sweetyassi]

Hi,

Sorry your feeling like this. You need should tell her the truth about how you feel. She might be understanding. Otherwise it could make things worse.

Sweety.

[Johnnie1234 in reply to Sweetyassi]

i did we had a little arguement lastnight and she told me face to face i have to fight my fears and not let things take over me its easy to say but hard to do .

[Sweetyassi in reply to Johnnie1234]

Oh dear, sorry to hear the talk didn't go well. She should be understanding towards your fears. I'm sure there must be something that she is afraid of. I'm struggling to leave my house since the lockdown i have terrible anxiety when I have to leave. It's not easy getting over the fear or anxiety.

[Deb4961]

Why would she want to go to Florida during a Pandemic? Covid 19 numbers are on the rise. That would scare me enough to not even want to go. The thought of flying with this virus is scary. You could explain that to her. I do understand what your feeling. I haven’t been on a vacation since 1999. I’m just more comfortable at home but I should get out if my comfort zone.

Best of Luck to you.

[Johnnie1234 in reply to Deb4961]

yeah it was for next month in july but we were gonna stay in a airbnb a big mansion just the fear if flying and my heart racing and mind racing its not even the day yet of going to the airport and i just cant stop thinking about it or calm down. we had a arguement lastnight so it might just be all cancled.

[Karen321]

You could try hypnotherapy to overcome your fear of flying. I had hypnotherapy because I was frightened of going on motorways (freeways) and it worked for me

[Johnnie1234 in reply to Karen321]

whats that if you dont mind me asking ?

[Karen321 in reply to Johnnie1234]

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