Locked in, or locked out?

[EricJones]

If I'm out and about and my concentration is on someone else. Like non-verbally I'm locked in on someone sitting at another table (for example). Will others turn back and lock in on me, or will they just ignore me?

[-Charlie]

It depends. If you’re glancing casually then no one will notice. If you’re staring intensely others may look at you and wonder what’s up out of curiosity.

[EricJones in reply to -Charlie]

I mean my non-verbal behavior. Since my awareness is on them, so is my body. I'm wondering if people can tell by my body that I'm focused on them.

[-Charlie in reply to EricJones]

Oh sorry I thought you meant locked in as in your eyes looking at someone. How are you locking in? Do you mean with sounds?

People don’t pay attention to subtle body language. Not really. Their too into their own thoughts or whatever they’re doing or focusing on. Unless your arms are waving wildly around, people aren’t zoomed in on you like you think they are. Remember what you said last week - observe, allow, accept …then you can ignore. I was really happy for you when I saw you thinking that way. I forgot to say anything to you but that’s a great technique for you to practice. 👍 Do you find it’s helping?

[EricJones in reply to -Charlie]

Can you explain to me what I said? I don't remember my last post. "observe, allow, accept" what did I mean by that?

[-Charlie in reply to EricJones]

I was semi-paraphrasing from what I remember. You mentioned a technique where by you wondered if by acknowledging the sounds, accepting that they are there and can’t harm you would allow you to let them fall back into the background, hence being able to somewhat ignore them. Here’s the link to your post 👇

healthunlocked.com/anxietys...

My apologies if I misunderstood what you meant but it sounded like a step in the right direction as acknowledging and accepting things like anxiety or hyper vigilance can often be more than half the battle to overcoming it and lessening our focus on it.

[EricJones in reply to -Charlie]

So, what was the correlation to people and wondering if they would pay attention to my non-verbal behaviors because I was paying attention to theirs?