Feeling Lonely and afraid

[Cakest3rs]

I feel like I give my all to everyone and don't receive the same energy back. After I delivered my baby I decided I wanted to go back to school. I graduated college this year with my associates and plan to transfer to a CSU (which was a huge accomplishment for me) after becoming a mother. I guess where I disappointed myself was expecting everyone to be there for me and to help me when I needed it the most but the only one that was there was my mother. I have three sister -in -laws that I knew since I was 12. I expected everyone to help me because I am always there for anyone else even if I'm we exclude from most of the family plans. My boyfriend never says anything which also hurts me because everyone tell me how "I" should feel about a situation. No body has my back but me. So from now on I will continue to think about me and my daughter.... and I'm nervous what the future holds even if my boyfrie And his family are not apart of my future.

[BlueAgave]

Congratulations on your degree! That's a great accomplishment. Sorry you feel your family isn't there for you, that can be such a terrible feeling. Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel? I hope they turn around and see that you are really trying hard. Keep up the good work.

[Cakest3rs in reply to BlueAgave]

Thank you so much for the congrats. Currently at the moment we are not speaking but I plan to talk to him about it. Tomorrow is his sister wedding. I'm just going to keep the day cordial and the day after maybe express my issues. I already know what he is going to say. Instead of trying to understand & taking a look on both sides he will always choose to defend them. Which leaves me in a position of feeling that "alone" sensation. I live with my boyfriend and his family and I think it's just time for me to focus on me and move on.

[BlueAgave in reply to Cakest3rs]

Might be right. I think the fact that you all live together is particularly difficult. Maybe it is time to move on for you mental health. Hope all goes well. ❤️

[Ryanlion]

Youve done marvellous getting your degree. And now you have a beautiful baby, how fortunate you are. I understand where you are coming from because you are a giver and your family are takers. As for your husband he feels he has to stick up for his family but you and his child are his family now. You have made the right decision look out for yourself and baby if your husband doesnt change. I suggest you stop doing things for your sister in laws if they cant be there for you. They are selfish and uncaring. You will meet kinder people in your life who will treat you better. There are many people in the world who will take advantage of kind people. You are bright and capable so please do not fear the future.

[Cakest3rs]

Thank you for the congratulations. I appreciate it. I always agree with you moving forward, I'm not using my kindness and compassion when it comes to helping my boyfriends family,anymore.

I planned a family camping trip for my birthday and I just feel like canceling it because i just enter a level of "shut down".

I just want to have mom friends to discuss this about because my friend really hasn't been there for me and it just suck because before I was my boyfriend girlfriend, I was his sisters best friend so when it came to my big day I expected her to be there first, I'm tried of putting out energy and not receiving vibrations back. It's exhausting.

[Lonely2023]

I learned after going through a very rough time, that I can’t expect anything from

Anyone. That doesn’t mean people won’t help you, it just means don’t think they will. It helped me greatly to try to plan and do everything for myself, then if someone did come through it was a great relief.

Be proud of what you accomplished. It is a great thing you did!! It doesn’t matter if other people say so as long as you know it!!