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Lonely

fearc9
fearc9

This year has been really hard. I feel like like the last couple years things have just been progressively getting worse and I don't know when I'm going to catch a break. Right at the beginning of this year I found out my boyfriend of about 3 years had been cheating on me and then I became severely depressed. Then the next guy I dated for a couple months I actually really connected with, but he disappeared. He then reappeared for a week like 5 months later saying he wanted a second chance and I cautiously agreed, but I was excited because I really do like him. A few days later before he even used his second chance he disappeared again. I got laid off at my job and have been struggling to find another one for 3 months now...I had to move back in with my parents. I keep hoping things will get better but they just keep getting worse. I feel so alone. I can't take any more rejection/heartbreak. I don't know why no one wants me...professionally, romantically, I even feel like all my friends have disappeared. I feel like a loser and a failure. I'm 25 and I feel like everyone is getting engaged and making strides in their careers and I have nothing. I used to be able to picture my future. The house I would live in, the type of job I might have, etc. But now I can't see anything in front of me. I don't know what to do. :/ I'm not trying to sound pitiful or anything, but I really feel quite shitty about myself right now.

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Hi fearc9. I so hear you. So much of what you said I have felt, too. I am about to go to sleep, but I just wanted to write to say you are not alone. There are a lot of cool, caring people on this site. And you're worth more than you feel. Hugs.

fearc9
fearc9 in reply to LovelySnow

thank you! that means a lot

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Hidden

Hello Fear!

I’m so sorry that you’re struggling right now...I know you’re frustrated. Moving back in with your folks doesn’t have to be a wash...use this time to work on yourself and learn how to love yourself alone without a man around. Relationships are so difficult! Work on re-wiring your brain to think positively about all situations. Let go of negativity! Don’t dwell on past failures or future problems...live in the moment while being grateful for your many blessings. Thinking positively takes practice and can absolutely be done! Forget about the disappearing man...he’s not good enough for a loving, smart, capable young woman such as yourself! You’re worthy of much more from a man. Work on a stronger and happier you! Sending you much love and happiness 🌷🙂🌷

fearc9
fearc9 in reply to Hidden

thank you!! seriously thank you!

Hidden
Hidden in reply to fearc9

Anytime, my friend 🌷💐🌷

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

The ever guiding light Susan 🌞

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

Not really, you know I should be sleeping!! 😴😳😴

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

You’ve always got one eye open in case you need to spread some forum love✌🏼🌞🎶🎹🎸

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

Lol! 😜

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

This post reminded me of 🎶birdy ,People help the people song🎵

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

You lost me...🤷‍♀️

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

I sent you it🙄lol

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

I got it...are you rolling your eyes at me?!?

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

Tut tut Susan it’s BIRDY 🎶🎵people help the people glad you got it lol✌🏼🌞

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

Hmmm...

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

Did you approve of the spiritual message?🎵🎶🎹😊

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234

Of course 🖖🏻

Sillysausage234
Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden

✌🏼🌞

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Hidden

I have been in the same situation. I found lowering my expectations of what I can expect out life makes it easier to cope with the challenges that arise. Live in the present moment. The past is gone and can’t be changed. The future is unknown. The present moment is all we can affect. Enjoy the present.

fearc9
fearc9 in reply to Hidden

thank you!

Just want to say hi and I’m sure you’re not a loser or a failure ✌🏼🌞

thanks!!

Hidden
Hidden

This may sound weird, but I think of your situation as an opportunity to get ready for the Best thing yet to come! You can only be down for so long. Next stop, upward and onward my sister cause it is sooo your time to shine! Meanwhile, get your mind ready by looking for a new job that you know you will like and take walks or a run in the sun for some air. Also, don't put up with bull crap because it is what it is. Focus on you feeling better and everything will fall into place when its time. Girl, just imagine yourself already on the new job, making it rain and looking all cute in your new shoes. Can you see it? If not, get to it girl! HUGE HUG! You got this! Now walk the run way like you mean it... Is that my song I hear... :) Ahhhhh!

fearc9
fearc9 in reply to Hidden

this made me smile thank you!

Sorry you are struggling with this. I know it's like when it rains it pours, like things get worst before they get better. I think many of us have felt this way in life at one point. Sometimes life forces us to take a step back before moving forward. You are still pretty young, it's never to late to a new beginning. This is a good time to focus on you. I know it can be hard at times so don't be afraid to reach out for outside help. Praying for you. Hugs

fearc9
fearc9 in reply to purposelife

thank you!!

Hidden
Hidden

You're definitely not a loser. I totally understand what you're going through. It's been one hell of a year but that doesn't make us inferior. It only makes us stronger.

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