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This year has been really hard. I feel like like the last couple years things have just been progressively getting worse and I don't know when I'm going to catch a break. Right at the beginning of this year I found out my boyfriend of about 3 years had been cheating on me and then I became severely depressed. Then the next guy I dated for a couple months I actually really connected with, but he disappeared. He then reappeared for a week like 5 months later saying he wanted a second chance and I cautiously agreed, but I was excited because I really do like him. A few days later before he even used his second chance he disappeared again. I got laid off at my job and have been struggling to find another one for 3 months now...I had to move back in with my parents. I keep hoping things will get better but they just keep getting worse. I feel so alone. I can't take any more rejection/heartbreak. I don't know why no one wants me...professionally, romantically, I even feel like all my friends have disappeared. I feel like a loser and a failure. I'm 25 and I feel like everyone is getting engaged and making strides in their careers and I have nothing. I used to be able to picture my future. The house I would live in, the type of job I might have, etc. But now I can't see anything in front of me. I don't know what to do. :/ I'm not trying to sound pitiful or anything, but I really feel quite shitty about myself right now.

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LovelySnow

Hi fearc9. I so hear you. So much of what you said I have felt, too. I am about to go to sleep, but I just wanted to write to say you are not alone. There are a lot of cool, caring people on this site. And you're worth more than you feel. Hugs.

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fearc9 in reply toLovelySnow

thank you! that means a lot

Hello Fear!

I’m so sorry that you’re struggling right now...I know you’re frustrated. Moving back in with your folks doesn’t have to be a wash...use this time to work on yourself and learn how to love yourself alone without a man around. Relationships are so difficult! Work on re-wiring your brain to think positively about all situations. Let go of negativity! Don’t dwell on past failures or future problems...live in the moment while being grateful for your many blessings. Thinking positively takes practice and can absolutely be done! Forget about the disappearing man...he’s not good enough for a loving, smart, capable young woman such as yourself! You’re worthy of much more from a man. Work on a stronger and happier you! Sending you much love and happiness 🌷🙂🌷

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thank you!! seriously thank you!

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Anytime, my friend 🌷💐🌷

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The ever guiding light Susan 🌞

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Not really, you know I should be sleeping!! 😴😳😴

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You’ve always got one eye open in case you need to spread some forum love✌🏼🌞🎶🎹🎸

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Lol! 😜

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This post reminded me of 🎶birdy ,People help the people song🎵

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You lost me...🤷‍♀️

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I sent you it🙄lol

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I got it...are you rolling your eyes at me?!?

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Tut tut Susan it’s BIRDY 🎶🎵people help the people glad you got it lol✌🏼🌞

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Hmmm...

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Did you approve of the spiritual message?🎵🎶🎹😊

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Of course 🖖🏻

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✌🏼🌞

I have been in the same situation. I found lowering my expectations of what I can expect out life makes it easier to cope with the challenges that arise. Live in the present moment. The past is gone and can’t be changed. The future is unknown. The present moment is all we can affect. Enjoy the present.

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thank you!

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Sillysausage234

Just want to say hi and I’m sure you’re not a loser or a failure ✌🏼🌞

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fearc9 in reply toSillysausage234

thanks!!

This may sound weird, but I think of your situation as an opportunity to get ready for the Best thing yet to come! You can only be down for so long. Next stop, upward and onward my sister cause it is sooo your time to shine! Meanwhile, get your mind ready by looking for a new job that you know you will like and take walks or a run in the sun for some air. Also, don't put up with bull crap because it is what it is. Focus on you feeling better and everything will fall into place when its time. Girl, just imagine yourself already on the new job, making it rain and looking all cute in your new shoes. Can you see it? If not, get to it girl! HUGE HUG! You got this! Now walk the run way like you mean it... Is that my song I hear... :) Ahhhhh!

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this made me smile thank you!

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purposelife

Sorry you are struggling with this. I know it's like when it rains it pours, like things get worst before they get better. I think many of us have felt this way in life at one point. Sometimes life forces us to take a step back before moving forward. You are still pretty young, it's never to late to a new beginning. This is a good time to focus on you. I know it can be hard at times so don't be afraid to reach out for outside help. Praying for you. Hugs

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fearc9 in reply topurposelife

thank you!!

You're definitely not a loser. I totally understand what you're going through. It's been one hell of a year but that doesn't make us inferior. It only makes us stronger.

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