Caused By Loneliness

[DougMD]

I had a relationship end last year and later when I found she is with a new boyfriend I spiraled into terrifying depression and anxiety. Not just specifically about her, but that I can’t meet a new companion. I am 45 years old and most people my age have already been married or have kids. I have few friends and a small city. I thought winter was bad but now that it is nice out and the holidays are coming I feel even worse. Everywhere I look there are couples and children. I can find some activities and groups but I always end up back in my house alone. I’ve tried antidepressants but they seem to just make me feel worse. Hoping to find a treatment for loneliness that I haven’t tried yet.

[Agora1]

DougMD anti-loneliness can't be found in pill form. There is no magic wand that can

turn that feeling around as well as wishing won't make it happen.

It's a matter of the right time presenting itself when you least expect it.

Somewhere out there is the companion you are looking for. One day when you

both are ready, Fate will intervene and you will know the time is right.

Keep busy living your life. Don't look upon others as to where they are.

Wishing you happiness today, tomorrow and always :)xx

[lofi_cat]

Hi! I agree with Agora1. Don't worry about love right now, that will happen when you are least expecting it. In the mean time, I'm really sorry you're hurting. I've been there before, and I just want to remind you: Finding connection is the important thing, it doesn't have to be a romantic relationship. (In fact, sometimes the loneliest times happen when you're in a relationship that isn't working.) Right now, it might be friends or neighbors that help you feel connected to the world. And pets are wonderful companions too. Of course you want to find a partner, that's natural. But it's really hard to find a partner if you aren't in a good place to begin with--you might not even be able to accept or feel love if you don't think you're deserving of it. My advice to you is to go out and do the things you enjoy doing, learn how to like yourself and engage with life again, and connect with friends or animals who make you feel happy. And it's important that you don't worry about the rest of the world and how there are couples everywhere. Believe me, they have their problems too. You just focus on finding your own joy.

[Agora1 in reply to lofi_cat]

Beautiful advice lofi_cat. Life is Good xx

[stillstandingrosa]

I understand what you mean Doug. It's like living in a bubble of isolation. We walk around doing things, but life doesn't touch us the way that it does others. I have maybe three friends.

Just keep swimming.