Loneliness

[Torres11]

I feel so alone, all the time I'm looking for some distraction, but I can only feel more empty. I have had stress and depression since I was 14 years old. I do not know the reason for my problem. I just want to find light in some sunrise. Thank you for reading my words.

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[Robert214]

I know it is hard to feel alone. Its something I struggle with daily. Its a feeling that is hard to shake.. Just know there are people here who understand your pain and actually care

[Torres11 in reply to Robert214]

Thanks, it's good to talk to other people who feel the same way. When I look for help around me people do not understand me they do not listen to me. In the last few years I have not talked to anyone about my depression, because I can only feel worse. Many people ask me why I have depression? Is that a good question? When you have nothing to say, when you yourself do not understand the why of your pain. I am currently living alone, it will soon be my 24th birthday, and I feel it will be a terrible day in which I will be alone with my birthday cake.

[Robert214 in reply to Torres11]

Talking with people who understand firsthand what depression is does help. It is hard to open up about how you are feeling, especially to someone who doesn't understand what depression actually is. While I have struggled with depression for many years I have only recently come to understand what this is and how it effects me.

I don't want to say that wanting to know why you are depressed is a bad thing but it is hard to explain to people sometimes.. Do you know what the reason(s) for your depression are? Over the last year there were times I wouldn't have been able to say why I was depressed, or that I was depressed at all. Fortunately I am quite self aware and have been able to pin down what my problems are and what makes me feel the way I do. Now I just have to figure out how to deal with those things in a healthy way. Sometimes it feels like I will never be normal again but I keep telling myself to push through and keep going even if its only till the end of the day.

I do understand that feeling of loneliness. It is something I am currently struggling with. It is one of the harder feelings to remedy by yourself..

Just know you will always have someone who knows what you are feeling and cares here. I am very appreciative of everyone on this forum. I barley joined but I already think I wouldn't be alive without this

[Torres11 in reply to Robert214]

Do you speak Spanish? It is difficult for me to explain my feelings in another language.

[Robert214 in reply to Torres11]

I do not but there is really good translation software. If you would like to post in Spanish I can get it translated no problem

[Torres11 in reply to Robert214]

Sometimes I think that maybe, I've been alone for so long, it's the cause of my depression. When I lived with my parents they were always working (making money), and that was the only important thing in our lives. But I was there waiting for a long time for a love phrase, a simple question like "how about school today". At that time I had many problems with my social life, I was away from people who only cared about the physicist, friends who are only at your side because of money or social status. I was sad, I just wanted a true friend, someone who saw inside me and not just the physicist. It's hard.

[Robert214 in reply to Torres11]

I am really sorry to hear that. Have you talked to your family about this?

I know it is really hard to deal with the feelings that accompany being lonely and depressed. Is there anything to are doing to try to distract yourself or help with your depression?

I am a very social person. I feel like I need interaction with people often at times. Not being able to have that can be hard. Especially from people that you want to have care about you. Unfortunately I have not found anything to help with that pain yet but I will always try.

I have had many friends over the years. It is hard to stay connected with people as you get older. I was with a girl for almost three years and I ended up isolating myself from basically everyone I knew during that time, even family. I had maybe two or three friends outside of work I still talked to. I regret that mindset every single day.

I don't know a quick fix as far as your need for real friends. I do know you need to like yourself on some level before having a true relationship with someone.

[Torres11 in reply to Robert214]

It is so difficult sometimes to find someone who understands your inner self. It has been a good help for my books and music. In my anxiety attacks I listen to instrumental music, before I used to write poetry and it was my best time, it was my way out of home problems. But the inspiration is gone. But running in the mornings is the best way to start the day and feel better now. What about you?

[gogogirl in reply to Robert214]

This is great advice. What is translaton software? I am old and not in this 21st century stuff!

[gogogirl in reply to Torres11]

You're a physicist? Well, that is awesome. It's a big part of who you are so be proud of that. Can you talk to your family/friends about this? Sometimes stress/money can overtake people and they do not mean to shut you out.

[gogogirl in reply to Torres11]

I do not speak Spanish. What country are you in?

[gogogirl in reply to Robert214]

I understand.

[gogogirl in reply to Torres11]

Happy Birthday! I would love to be that age again- well sometimes. I am close to three times your age. Remember, you do not need to talk to anyone about your depression. That is up to you. What is the rest of your life like? Do you have any family/friends who are near you? Perhaps you can look for a support group, or if cannot find one- see if there is a club or activity group near you- something you like doing. I have anxiety/depression also, and I am older. Life can be hard.

[Torres11 in reply to gogogirl]

Thank you very much for your reply. I understand how difficult your situation can be, are you alone too? I'm a little removed from my family, I finish my studies in the university and I moved alone since I got a job. But I'm fine because living at my parents' house did not help me before. To control my depression I do many activities, exercises, piano lessons, yoga. So when I return home I am so tired that I can have at least 3 hours of rest. But I know that I must change my social life and begin to see the world in another way.

[gogogirl in reply to Torres11]

You sound like you are together and doing well or at least on a track that is right for you. Are you in the US?

[Hollick]

The experts are saying loneliness is on the rise, and reaching/reached epidemic proportions.. apparently, technology is to blame in a big way..there's a comfort in knowing one is not alone in their struggles, however I think to myself, when I'm feeling lonely, where are all the lonely ppl? As the song used to go...