I've posted before kind of on this topic but since I've become more agoraphobic and neurotic and shut down and hiding in my house.
My mom needs heart surgery. She is my best friend. She is 82. I am 47. I don't have a partner or kids. I have a brother. He helps sometimes but he isn't completely emotionally supportive.
For the surgery we need to travel. Right there I'm out of my comfort zone. I feel like I'm being selfish but I'm afraid I'm going to be so anxious that I'll get sick when we're at the hospital. Oh that's another phobia I've been having. That I'll get my Mom to the hospital and then I'll get sick with a cold or respiratory illness and not be able to function or help and I'll have no one to help me because she's the only one that does help me.
She needs me and all I can think about is anxious the whole situation is going to make me. I feel like a selfish jerk.
I don't know if I should stay with her (if they let me) or go back to the hotel. I honestly feel like I don't know how to do things like this on my own. Sometimes I have trouble getting food for myself.
My anxiety has been terrible. More Valium does very little. Why can I just be optimistic and functional?
Why can't I stop obsessing on this?
Please help if you can 💜