Is there really a way out?

[Whistle_charm]

I've been in denial a long timeBecause where I'm from emotions are for the weak and feebleminded.

Wrongs were done to me and no one gives a damn. I was raped, not protected and make to feel ashamed and responsible by my mom.

She's not married to my father.

He has his family and they're doing quite good for themselves.

He however isolates me or ignores me because he fears my mom has a hold on me.

They are both mad at each other and I suffer. He doesn't know what I've been through because I feel this need to prove to him I'm strong despite his abandonment. I also feel obligated to keep my mom's role a secret because she's my mom and I feel like she needs my help always.

She has a way of gaslighting me .

I'm used to having toxic partners and now there's a new pure hearted healthy man in my life and I can't even relate to that.

They broke me with their constant rejection and I can't even help myself move on.

[Blueruth]

That sounds so hard. I am sorry you have to endure that. Being able to talk about it is a brave and healthy step. Being online is helpful but it really sounds like you need support in your own country. There is a woman's consortium in your country that has a focus on violence towards women. According to the website they over free legal services and protection. If they do not have support groups they can probably help you find one. I think it would be really helpful to contact them so that you can find like minded women and support.

womenconsortiumofnigeria.org/

[Whistle_charm in reply to Blueruth]

Thank you so much

[catsrock]

I'm so sorry and relate to the gaslighting big time with my family of origin. Please hang in there and get the support you need. Sending lots of hugs.

[Whistle_charm in reply to catsrock]

Thanks a lot

[scansnap]

It sounds like you are living in a very dysfunctional family and that they have hurt you a lot. I would certainly agree with Blueruth that getting into a support from you would be very beneficial.

The idea that mental health problems are for the weak or feebleminded is really outdated. In all countries, they're still are people who believe that, but it is not true.

Given how dysfunctional your family is and your age, is it possible for you to leave the family and get away from them?

[Whistle_charm in reply to scansnap]

I've tried to move overseas or at least far away. I need a means of sustenance.That's why I'm still neck deep in their mess. I'm looking to join a group though.

That's for your support