Need a friend

[Hippielife67]

I'm 67 . I'm a mother, grandmother and recently a great grandmother. I love with my boyfriend of 101/2 years. I've suffered from depression and anxiety forever and I'm sick of it. I believe it stems mostly from sexual, verbal and emotional abuse since a child. I'm tired of it all. Tried many antidepressants and none seem to work. I'm a somewhat quiet person so seeing a therapist never did much good. I'm just tired of all this and would love to meet people who have it are going through the same.

[Marysblue]

I dealt with it all my life. I probably tried 15 medications this year. Things are looking up right now. Keep trying.Nice to meet you.

[gajh]

Welcome. You are in the right place to connect with others who have depression and anxiety. I hope you find it as helpful as I have.

[Hippielife67 in reply to gajh]

Thank you

[Hidden]

I too have anxiety ( real bad at times) and I’m 67 too. I also had an abusive childhood for many years. What do you want to talk about? I’m here and I think we have a lot in common incase you want to reach out. I too could use a friend. You can message me anytime.

[Hippielife67 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your reply. Sorry you had an abuse childhood too. I know how it can effect your life. I'm sure it plays a part in my depression, not trusting too many. I think I'm just looking for a friendship with someone I have something in common with, who could understand what it's like how it makes you feel and why you can't just shake it off. I was abused by my stepdad from about 3/4 till about 15, when I was 10 we moved from CA to his parents farm in Ill where it continued with him but also his 2 brothers and father. Of course I think that's what lead me to picking the wrong guys also. Anyway thanks for listening. It would be nice having a friend. I love in Wisconsin. Where are you located?

[Hidden in reply to Hippielife67]

I’m am so so sorry you had to endure such horror and I know what it does to your issues with trust, believe me. It was my father and it went on pretty much daily from around 5-12 years old. And I was not the only one but got the worst of it..

I live in florida. I am super lonely lately. Going thru a feeling of isolation, just can’t find my way out of it.

[Hippielife67 in reply to Hidden]

I feel super lonely also. I have three kids. Oldest. Boy then two girls 9 grandkids just just recently a great grandson . I live with my boyfriend of 10 plus years. He's a good guy. Finally found one. I've been at the same job for 33 years although in different departments. I have trouble making any decisions, I have terrible insomnia and sleep apnea. Oh I know what I was going to say, my son and his family live in Ohio they are Mormon, oldest daughter in CA and youngest lives a few blocks away. We are pretty close. It's hard though going through all this basically alone. I don't let people know what I'm going through or how I feel. Keep everything bottled inside. I think that comes from growing up always being told you didn't belong, to be quiet cause nobody cares about what you have to say. It sticks with you.ive thought about ending things but not seriously. Honestly I'm afraid of death. Never really thought about actually doing it. I just always think when will it get better but at 67 I'm not sure it really ever will. There's always something and with no friends it's rough. No one to talk to. Well I should stop for now. Have a good night

[Hidden in reply to Hippielife67]

Good morning 🌞

So, you have a partner, that’s good. I personally am not involved with anyone, been years actually. I was married 20 years, dated some after, but my trust issues are so intense that I decided to not date anymore, it became too stressful…among other issues with relationships.

I do have 2 adult kids, they live 2 hours away, never see them, but we do talk often. I recently retired, like a few months ago, lots of free time…. Probably not the greatest thing for me lol. I have bouts of such awful anxiety at like 2am then I’m up the rest of the nite. I have really cut back on my wine before dinner, I feel it makes anxiety worse.

My name is Stacey. If you want, let’s actually text off of here… up to you, but I’m thinking maybe we could help eachother? No pressure, if not, it’s cool, we can stay on here and chat 😊

[Hippielife67 in reply to Hidden]

Good morning. I understand completely. After my last divorce I was alone for about 15 years. It definitely sounds like we have a bit in common and maybe could help each other. I'm open you communications off this site. Ever emails texting, and even written letters. Let me know your preference I'm good with any/ all forms.

[Hidden in reply to Hippielife67]

Ok then, open to email. 😊 or Watever you are comfortable with. Or we could stay on here, but is there not a way to private message?? I’m new on here don’t know… I mean does everyone need to read our messages?? Seems weird lol.

[Hippielife67 in reply to Hidden]

I agree I'd like to chat privately, don't necessarily want to share everything with everyone.

[Hidden in reply to Hippielife67]

Sent you a private chat at the bottom of screen there’s an option.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

There is a chat option here

You can open a chat with Hippielife67

There is a report button and a mute button in chat if needed.

The site does have a recommendation that we get to know each other on the forum first for safety.

I just needed to write that reminder

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[MindfulMoment]

welcome!!! We all need a friend who understands don’t we that was one of my early posts on here when I was in the throes of my panic disorder. I felt so alone and like no one understood what I was going through. I’ve met some awesome people on here. I hope you will as well. Congratulations on your new great grand baby!!! How wonderful to have a precious new life in your family! I bet they are so squishy and smell so good!!! I see you’re from Wisconsin, my husband was stationed there years ago. Boy was it COLD! Fort McCoy was on of my favorite stations though. Beautiful place. My best friend from high school lives in a junction City, we almost moved there when he retired! I have panic disorder. I understand the isolation you probably feel. At my worst, I couldn’t even get out of bed. I was afraid of everything…. Everywhere. These days I’m a busy bee, always going here and there. Took some time and a lot of hard work but it is possible to break out. Trauma never goes away, but we learn to accept and cope. I wish you all the best!!!

[Kat63]

I can relate. I’m a woman, almost 60 y.o. No children. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 22 years. Before that, I was married (a mistake) and divorced.

I’ve been living with anxiety and depression since I was seven years old.

I need some friends who understand, too.

[PNIAuthor60]

Sadly, my childhood resulted in a lifelong struggle as well, but I am on no medication and instead try to educate myself and participate in online events and classes like this rickhanson.net/online-cours... I was given a scholarship due to my limited income at the time and now have life-long access to the material which includes video education by the author - I've learned over the years how important good nutrition is to the brain and also exercise - how do you nourish yourself?- when I found a good grief counselor to grieve and mourn my childhood experiences, my whole world inside myself changed as did my perspectives over time.

We are all resilient in our own ways, this is a wonderful community here at HealthUnlocked.com - remarkable courageous individuals all of us and so kind and caring

[Midori]

You've come to the right place, Welcome! We are all at different stages of our Journey, but we are a good and caring community.

Cheers, Midori

[hypercat54]

Please everyone be cautious about people online until you get to know them better. You don't know if someone is who they say they are and what they might want.

I have been here for a long time and have lost count of every time someone made an 'instant friend' online only to find out they were trying to troll, scam, or date them.

Or they told them too much about themselves and were then hurt even further or ghosted.

It's better to lock your posts to this community also as otherwise this and all the replies can go viral and even appear on social media. Unless you want the whole world to know your business that is!

Stay safe online peeps.

[Agora1 in reply to hypercat54]

Ditto xx

[MadBunny in reply to hypercat54]

Thanks for the timely reminder x