Alienation and Obsessive thoughts

I’ve struggled with my mental state for my whole life. It seems as of late that when I seek help or friendship from anybody, I’m instantly rejected or ignored, both in person and online. Nobody seems to sympathize with what I’m dealing with, even others with mental disorders. Nobody cares that I’m lonely and frustrated with my life and help me get a step up, not even my therapist seems to fully understand. This is yet another resort I’m trying.

[Hidden]

yes mental health issues should be so important but unfortunately everyone neglects until too late

[LEK8]

Hi,

I am sorry you are going through this. I too have struggled with some things a good portion of my life and have found it hard to find anyone that understands or wants to listen. Today I tried to explain to my significant other why I’m feeling so depressed and how my anxiety is affecting me and I got yelled at and basically told he’s annoyed with me and doesn’t want to hear about it. That hurt and that’s why today I decided to try and find a group where hopefully somebody understands and will listen as I have no one else. I feel your pain so if it helps any I too am frustrated with life and am lonely.

[Starrlight in reply to LEK8]

(((((((hug)))))))

[Milliewaterlilly]

You're really NOT ALONE in this. I've been feeling exactly the same lately and I can totally relate to what you explain. It's very frustrating when you see that therapists don't quite understand you. You then start feeling hopeless. Do you think your therapist helps you overall and you are making progress? What kind of therapy are you in? Otherwise it's maybe a good idea to find help elsewhere and or change therapists if you can. You can write me privately if you want to share anything else. I also need someone to share my struggles. Take care 🌻

[Polarbear44 in reply to Milliewaterlilly]

I am sorry to hear but am in same situation and currently on 24 hour support line just to try anything to show I’m crying out for help

[Polarbear44 in reply to Polarbear44]

So tricky to get back quickly as I know it’s not that easy. Even thinking ect. I’m waiting for operation and can’t wait to be put to sleep and reset my body when waking up Shout anytime I’m here x

[Polarbear44 in reply to Milliewaterlilly]

am here to chat anytime and thank you x

[Milliewaterlilly]

What support line are you using ?

[Hidden in reply to Milliewaterlilly]

I’ve tried a number of them I’ve found off of Google to no avail. My therapist suggested something called a warm line but haven’t gotten through to any I’ve looked up. I went to an online support group for OCD but couldn’t relate to anything they were talking about because my obsessions are mental not physical.

[Hidden in reply to Milliewaterlilly]

I also try to get a new therapist because I’m not happy with my current one but places just throw me on a wait list with no answer as to when they’ll get back to me.

[Weatherwoman]

Agree, it's really hard to get help especially these days since the pandemic. My therapist said that a lot of Psych. & Psychol. have left as they got burnt out. Staff at Medical offices are overwhelmed, overworked. Warm lines are okay, but 15 min. just isn't therapy; but, it's someone to talk with, temporarily! I have been going to an OCD Group for years --helpful. Self-help books are helpful, U-Tube re. Anxiety/Depression. On-line therapy --shop around for a good fit. My friends don't exactly know what I'm talking about re. my Fears & they are good friends, but don't quite understand the pain we (on HU) go through. And, I don't want to be a "burden" so don't say too much except one friend who has similar anxiety disorder! After all is said and done while we do need help, its' still mostly OUR work, the work we put into what we need to do is probably the best medicine. I keep telling that to myself; but, it's SO hard to do the work, at times!

[OtOFrance]

Hello Hidden

First of all, I hope you are as fine as possible when reading this message.

Do you know that your mental condition or state are just a tiny part of who you are ? You are a human with many abilities, qualities and an ability to love and ne loved.

You must not summarize yourself to those psychological conditions, it is way too small compared to the stunning person you are.

Tell me, what do you like ? What do you watch on TV ? What are your dreams ?

I am sure there are many !

Take care of yourself, you exist in a single model !

Love from France

O

[Hidden in reply to OtOFrance]

Thanks for your response. I have major depressive disorder and anxiety and I recently got off my medications in hope of transitioning to medical marijuana as an alternative. (Here in the US you have to get approved by a doctor first) I like researching and reading, my favorite TV show is The Sopranos, and I would hope in marry and have kids someday but it seems so out of reach because I am chained to my failures in the past and my feelings of inadequacy. I feel trapped and angered and rejected from those near me.

[Hidden]

It’s really funny that especially because of the pandemic everyone is aware that all over there’s a serious mental health crisis going on, and no one is really addressing it or seems to be doing much about it. Recently at the Walgreens drug store near where I live they are trying to get people to donate money for Red Nose Day and their sign claims the money will go towards mental health care for children and teens. That’s so vague. I’m wondering exactly what the money is going towards. The therapists seem to be burnt out and now there’s shortages of doctors and nurses and teachers too. Seems like a lot of people are expected to just go back to work but as a planet we’re all hurting.

[Hidden]

Actually, most people don't care that much about the problems of other people; they're too busy worrying about their own problems. It might be better to build a friendship with someone and, when it is strong enough, then begin to discuss your problems. People are more receptive when they feel close to someone.

[Hidden]

Thank you for the advice. That’s where I feel I’m stuck. I try to talk with people and make friends at work, but get rejected usually outright or just ignored when I try to get together outside of work. I have no real hobbies other than the internet so it’s hard to find places to go where I can meet people my age.