Heartbroken

[Acorn2]

Th biggest issue in my life is my relationship, I moved out yesterday because I was constantly lied too. After finding he was cheating i never knew if he had been sexual. I threatened to text one of the girls and ask what happened but once he thought I was texting her he flipped out and told his mom, his mom and the girl were actually friends. So his mom texted her telling her that if I texted her to not say anything. That’s something I can’t stop thinking. He always told me nothing happened but after his mom helped him hide it. I don’t want anything to do with them anymore but I have to for our daughter. Someone please help

[Taylormidnights]

That's tough but whhatt u can do is call one of the crisis number and they will help u with getting out of that situation it ain't easy hold on tight it's gone get better

[Kelkel00]

I know it is immensely painful but you definitely did the right thing by moving out! Good luck and many prayers to you!

[Tara52]

So sorry you are going through this terrible situation. It's bad enough to have been lied and cheated on but to have his mother encouraging it is alarming! Do you have a child with him? How old is he that he relies on his sick mothers support? I'd steer clear of the whole dysfunctional family.!!! However you need to go to court and get some financial support for your daughter. I hope you can get a good therapist or support group because you will need some help through all of this. I will be praying for you!🙏💗

[Midori]

What is it with American men, that they have to tell Mommy when things go pear shaped?

Cheers, Midori

[Srb3147]

I had the same thing happened to me, only unfortunately I was on the opposite end. I was the other woman without knowing I was the other woman. I had him and his mom telling me that I could not reach out to the person, claiming that if I did she might hurt her self and that they would hold me accountable. It was probably one of the many many lies that I was being told, but I value her life, and her health, even though I don’t know her. Her life means more to me than her knowing the truth. I’ve been in her shoes and had a person who lied and lied and lied and cheated and cheated and cheated, and I knew how much I needed the truth when that was happening. I wanted to give her that, but with them saying that she could hurt her self what was I to do? So, I backed away and didn’t say anything. It could be a lie, but I can’t take the risk when someone else’s life is involved. My advice is consider what’s the best thing for your mental health. Is it better for you to say I know what I know, I really don’t need to know anymore, this is enough for me to MoveOn even though it’s gonna hurt and it’s gonna take time. This is enough for me to move on I’m just gonna let it go . If so, don’t try to contact her. Think about the fact of if I talk to this woman and she tells me things that I don’t wanna hear, how much is that really gonna hurt me? How much is that gonna put me back? Am I strong enough to hear what she may or may not say? Is there any chance that what she tells me could put me in a dark place that it’s gonna be hard for me to get out of? Sometimes it’s better for us not to know. If I was to have talked to his person, I would’ve been kind, because I was hurting too. I would have questions that I wanted her to answer, and I would only tell her what she asked, what she wanted to know, and I would try to be mindful of her feelings, but not everyone’s gonna be like that. If this woman knew you existed and chose to have an affair with him anyway, she didn’t care about your feelings from the get-go. In that case you’re probably better off not talking to someone who’s not gonna be sensitive to what you’re going through. If you honestly think you’re strong enough, and you can handle whatever she has to say no matter what it is, if you can use that as fuel to say this is BS and this is going to help me get over him because nobody deserves this not me not anybody, then make the decision and call her. Who’s to say they’re not lying to you about the fact that she’s not gonna answer. But make the decision based upon whether or not you can honestly handle it. Because you’ve got a look out for your mental health above everything else right now. You have people in this world who love you.