Heartbroken

[jasmin1983]

I suffer from depression and anxiety for the past 6 years I recently had a boyfriend and we were so happy at the beginning. He suffers from depression as well. He told me I was the love of his life and when he got depressed he would not let me in or help him. He pushed me out and broke up with me because his therapist said it’s not healthy for either of us to be in a relationship. I wanted to stand by his side. I’m so heart broken

[caassiiee14]

i understand this completely. your own mind can make things even worse for the situation, but give yourself time to heal. focus on yourself and try to push away any negative thoughts around the situation. you deserve to feel better just as much as he does. never doubt i’m sure you did everything you could to help, some people just need some time away.

[jasmin1983 in reply to caassiiee14]

Do you think once he gets better he comes back to me.? I don’t know what he keeps telling his therapist that he says it’s not healthy for us to be in a relationship instead of doing couples counseling

[jeniffer13]

I’m sorry to hear that you are going thru this. I’m sure you were a great partner and did everything you could for him. It’s not your fault that the relationship ended. It sucks that you are feeling so sad and heartbroken right now. My ex-bf did something similar to me. His drinking got so bad that he had to go to detox and rehab. I was with him the whole time and once he got out of rehab, he broke up with me. It’s really hard, I hope you feel better soon 💗

[jasmin1983 in reply to jeniffer13]

Wow that’s crazy did he ever give you an explanation? How did you get over him and cope? Are you in a new relationship?

[jeniffer13 in reply to jasmin1983]

He never really gave an explanation except he just didn’t feel anything for me anymore. Even thou we had been together for over 10 yrs. To be honest, I’ve been having a hard time coping but I’ve been getting into running and listening to podcasts to try to distract myself. I’m not in a new relationship but I think I’ll try online dating soon. I hope you can find a new hobby for yourself or something like that!

[froggymom88]

I'm guessing the therapist thought that having both partners in a relationship who suffer from depression was not a good idea. One can bring down the other instead of lifting them up. He may come back, but you can never be sure if he will leave again when going through a difficult time. It might be good to move on from this relationship. Do you have a therapist?