Hello all,
Please be sensitive with me regarding this topic. I don’t want to start a controversial conversation but am more so looking for some comfort and maybe reassurance as my emotions are all over the place.
My boyfriend of half a year recently betrayed me and broke my trust. At the very beginning of our relationship we agreed that watching porn was off limits. Two nights ago, a couple days after our six month anniversary, I found out he was in fact watching porn. I know that this is a topic up for debate, and some people may not think it is wrong, but my boyfriend and I agreed very early on that we thought it was in terms of our relationship. I immediately felt betrayed, damaged, and not to mention very insecure.
The most hurtful part was that he lied to me. Sure, I never would’ve found out, but I committed to my vow to not view these things meanwhile his promise was empty. I feel as if I’m not enough. When I confronted him, he continued to lie and tell me that he had not watched it. He was dishonest until I showed him what I had seen and then he immediately flipped the situation and told me it was my fault because he was unable to get turned on because of my sexual past, and how I had more partners than him (something he already knew also from the beginning and said he was okay with). I am beside myself and feel like this still isn’t real. He was such a good guy and I never expected something like this from him. Someone please help. I don’t want to turn to alcohol, not eating, not sleeping, and impulsive self-harm decisions like I feel myself slipping into. I don’t know how to get over him but I’m also not sure how I could ever trust him again. Does anyone have anything to say?