INSECURITIES

I always feel ugly, people always tell me that I look skinnier, which means they do think i'm fat. I have nobody to talk to. I feel like everywhere I go people watch me and talk bad about me because of my color. I can't ever get a boyfriend because i'm ugly and need plastic surgery according to everybody in the world. I don't know this probably makes no sense what so ever, but I'm just ranting, and 100% depressed.

[Redfox9]

Am sorry for you. People will say thousand things, they just need topic to talk, they say bad things about other to have validation for own self.

I don’t have much to say, but if you need someone to vent out to or need help, am here.

Wishing you all the happiness.

Best

~Red

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Thank you

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what are you doing??

[Redfox9 in reply to Hidden]

generally or for this situation?

You can pm me.

[Hidden]

What counts is your personality - a good decent person is what most people look for in friend or lover

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some people but most people don't they just look for sex and thats about it

[MarkFL]

Hi there!

There is no shortcut to improve your self-esteem, you need to start with the traditional steps of physical activity and nutrition, this will make your body and brain release natural substances that will help a lot in your mental condition. Always remember that most problems are more within our thoughts than in the real world so try to change your attitude that things around you will improve a lot. The opposite will not happen, change occurs from within!

Life is good and you deserve to live the best of it!

Wish you the best.

[Hidden]

Pretend you're a heterosexual male.A man with no job, no car, and no education will walk up to you with the confidence of God, and you know what? Women will go for him! Demeanor makes up for a lot of shortcomings.

Also, you said everybody on the planet thinks you're ugly. That's not humanly possible, and even if you had met everybody on the planet, who's to say you'd want them. You get a say in life, too.

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everybody on the planet does and btw I try to get a say in life and I get ignored and judged for it.

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how do you know have you met me or looked at me yet???

[catsrock]

I am so sorry you are having a good time. You are a beautiful person and the people who are saying these things to you are the ugly ones.

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Thats not possible

[catsrock in reply to Hidden]

Sorry - I meant to say that you are having a hard time. Can't figure out how to edit my original message.

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ur good

[metalminded]

I’m sorry you feel this way! I have a good amount of insecurities too and try my best to deal with them.

Your adoptive parents don’t seem very interested in helping your self-esteem.

Have you tried to contact your biological mother?

You’re 18, are you going to college? That will help you make new friends and improve your self-esteem!

I’ve never considered myself a good looking guy but I’ve been married for 17 years and have made good friends and all of that had nothing to do with my outward appearance!!

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My biological mother died in her sleep when at age 27, but I've called my biological sisters and my granny and they seem really helpful but I can't ever see them because My adoptive parents won't let me. I'm thinking about college, I wanna go to U of A which is a college that the razorbacks go to. I wanna be a pediatric surgeon, or some sort of surgeon or work in a mental health facility for younger kids. I just don't know yet

[metalminded in reply to Hidden]

I’m sorry! If you wanted you could probably be emancipated from your adopted parents if you could live with your sisters or Grandma.

Are your adopted parents paying for college?

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I can't do that my parents would kill me and my bio family told me that i should wait because my sister had a baby a few months ago and they are really busy or I would

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and court said I can't

[metalminded in reply to Hidden]

Well, a few years and you’ll be 21 and do what you’d like.

Your college ambition is admirable and I hope you achieve it! Don’t let anything stand in your way!

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i'll try not to

[metalminded in reply to Hidden]

Good!! I hope you have a Happy New Year!

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you too

[metalminded in reply to Hidden]

Thank You

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your welcome

[Against_the_current]

Hey, you're beautiful. I tell you. Also beauty standards are more accepting and body positive today. Be mindful of the media you consume. Follow body positivity artists. Jameela Jamil, Demi Lovato, Lizzo. Doja Cat has a song Juicy. Tho I really doubt you are, i think that when people tell you you're skinny they mean it and they're concerned about your health. Your health matters, if you're healthy, you will naturally look good. For example im fat myself and I have never been ashamed of it since i have more serious problems. I started working out for my mental health. Weight loss has never been my aim. My aim was to stop my damn anxiety and ptsd and tachicardia. Also my therapist says something - if you have fear, you find evidence to feed it. If you have a fear of being fat (nothing bad in this, im fat and yet hot), you hear "oh, you're so skinny" and you think people think you're fat. While they're just worried about you

Every body is a beautiful body. It keeps us alive

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Thank you and I love doja cat and demi lovato I mostly listen to just doja cat I love her so much. I love her song best friend.

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Yass girl! So you see how confidence makes attraction not vice versa

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yea I do but fr tho doja cat tho omfg

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Listen to Juicy. And All about the base by Megan Trainor

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I love all about that bass by her

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I would try to chat with you but I haven't confirmed my email yet so I will do it tommorow but we can do it like this if you want

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

You can see my latest posts. Im losing my goddamn mind

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why???

[Against_the_current in reply to Hidden]

Family, my health, living situation, 2 global crisises

[Itsjust]

i understand you girl! for real! there is this pressure, and it's not only in your head i would say that in your head the only thing it exists is consciousness, the thing i would say is probably you took on the critics of the world all to yourself, like you are the spot, i imagine there are million voices criticizing yourself right now right? and i actually belive that is being too much for you to take on just yourself. It's okay it's not your fault okay? you are trying, okay? i belive you, i belive how hard it is, i know you can't change how you feel or think i know, it's okay.

I am here if you wanna talk, if i don't respond immediatly is not because of you or your fault okay? It's myself and things i have to do, i care about you still <3