How to live life knowing I'm ugly?

[UglyDuckie]

i'm new here... going through a hard time. why ugly in this world have to exist?my friend talks about pretty girls around me and it made me felt bad. i wasn't born with the pretty or cute genes.. my life just sucks being ugly.

[Hb2003]

Firstly you need to change your username because heck your not ugly at all to me ❤️ What matters is the inside not the outside but the ugly duckling did get beautiful ❤️ I think your beautiful just the way you are ❤️ -Hiba

[animefan94]

I get it. I’m ugly too lol, very plain looking

[Iammesues]

I’ve got the uglies too. I don’t think I have any good advice- just want you to know you are not alone. I spend most days alone, but I’m married. I feel most comfortable alone in my room.

[Pugglesworth]

Hi and welcome to the board!

Ugliness is simply a perception. It actually doesn't exist except in our minds. We base this perception on what we experience: what we watch on television, hear, see on the Internet and that simply isn't reality. This opinion may also be based on what other people say and think, but the reality is we don't actually know what they think. What people say can change from moment to moment. And we may take what they say the wrong way. They may be trying to convey a different meaning entirely. It's they way we are. As humans. Constantly changing.

I can assure you that you are fine just the way you are. How we look on the outside is one of the tiniest parts of who we actually are as human beings. I can't change your opinion of yourself. Only you can do that.

And you can do that.

[Dolphin14]

You are not ugly, the beauty is within us. If someone doesn't take the time to know you they are very shallow in my eyes.

🐬

[UglyDuckie]

Thank you. It's not easy to change how i think about myself in a blink of an eye but I guess I'll try.

[Agora1 in reply to UglyDuckie]

Hi new friend. Being beautiful comes from many different sources in the body. The outer shell, our looks, is but an ever changing facet of who we are. Beauty shows through when we love ourselves, have self esteem in who we are and self confidence in who we can be.

Some young women take time in achieving this entire package. Beauty is not about being a

"stamped out" replica of models in a magazine. How boring life would be if when we looked at a garden of flowers, they all looked the same. We each bring a different look to the human race. Each one is beautiful and forms a chorus of humanity at it's finest.

Change your negativity to a more positive view of yourself when you look in the mirror.

You will start to see a sparkle in your eyes and a smile on your face once you begin to

love who you are. Welcome to this amazing safe site xx

[Rafiki11]

Ugly is an opinion not a fact. You cannot prove that you’re ugly.

I would love to hear about your interests, your kindness, your thoughts.

Appearance is just an illusion. It’s how light bounces off your assemblage of atoms. If you looked at yourself and the girls you’re jealous of through night vision goggles, you wouldn’t see what you’re jealous of. You’d see how similar you really are.

[Midori]

You know, I'm not the prettiest peach in the box either, but I live behind my eyes. I look outwards, not inwards.

I only look in a mirror a couple of times a day, just long enough to do the necessary. Strangely, most people don't worry about how people look, just who they are.

I don't give a tinker's cuss what folk see when they look at me. What they see is what they get. I'm not looking to be popular, I'm just being me, I'm polite, I'm kind, I'll help when I can and as long as my disability allows it, but I don't let looks control me.

I wear outrageous teeshirts with some amusing, or sarcastic (depending on how I feel) pictures and slogans. Often it gets a laugh from folk who walk by, and that's great! Sometimes they'll chat for a few minutes before getting on with their day. I wore one today which says EW! PEOPLE! and has a cartoon dragon looking like it saw something scary.

You don't have to be pretty to be loveable. I have earned every wrinkle on my face!

Cheers, Midori

[RemySue]

I'm working on stopping the negative self talk. My counselor who I recently started seeing again after a 5 year break told me I'm saying the same things about myself that I did 10 years ago-I'm old, I'm fat, I'm ugly. And comparing myself to others is also something to work on. I'm my own worst enemy. We are all beautiful dearie!

[Autisticframework]

Beauty is on the inside - you care and love for someone and that is worth something. God looks after all!

[happyseal]

Who told you you're ugly? Have you asked everyone on the planet what they think? Beauty is so dependent on who is seeing you. So saying that you are ugly does not even make sense. Is that something that someone told you? Or are you comparing your self with magazines and whatnot?And you know what? What makes someone beautiful is their attitude and self confidence and self esteem.

Plus if you keep telling yourself you are ugly, you are basically convincing yourself that you are. Start by noticing when you tell yourself that you are ugly, and the. Stop saying that. When you find yourself saying that you are ugly change that broken disk and name something you like about yourself.

And don't let anyone convince you that you are ugly. You are not. And if ppl around you say you are, then you haven't found your tribe yet.