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Insecurity about my appearance

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Hello, I'm back after a long time.

I thought I would never come back, well, almost nothing has changed, I still feel lonely, but what has increased is my insecurity, when I capture very nice pictures of me, I think a thousand times before posting it, I look at my body, my hair, my eyes, my hands, every detail must be perfect, because I am afraid that someone will not like the picture, every time I leave the house, I feel insecure about my body, my friends say I am beautiful, but I do not feel that way.

Lately I'm watching videos and reading articles to increase my self-esteem, it's weird, I always thought I didn't have problems with my self-esteem. As you can see, so far I have a hard time looking in the mirror and seeing a beautiful person.

I hope you feel good about yourselves.

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Cherry2203, I'm sure you know the old saying that beauty is only skin deep. In my opinion, your beauty is about what you do in helping others, not about what you look like.

Cherry, Do you live in the US?

There is a culture of 'looking perfect' there, and magazines and the Media push it for all they are worth, because it increases their profits. Their bottom line is how they judge their success, not by how their glossy articles might help somebody's feelings of inadequacy.

I've not come across a country so brainwashed into pills, potions and surgery. Social media is as bad, because it fosters a culture of if you look this way you will be loved. It isn't true.

It is what is inside you that is loveable, not outside.

How many celebrities do you know who are divorced, often multiple times purely for appearance sake? They may look perfect, but their personalities can be abominable.

I've lived in the States, seen it. got the comments 'Oh, if only you....!' It's all fake!

You live behind your eyes, you only need look in your mirror twice a day.

Please stop trying to be perfect. Your idea of perfection often doesn't agree with someone else's, and it all adds to the feelings of inadequacy, and depression.

Hope this helps.

Cheers, Midori

As I’ve grown older I’ve realised that there is no point in trying to look perfect and then came the realisation that it doesn’t matter anyway. Why should I care that someone who doesn’t know me, and that I don’t know, is judging me on my appearance. Your friends care about you for who you are. 🙂👍🌸

I’m sorry that you are not very well Lessthanone, we have to put our efforts into our health and trying to get as well as possible. I sincerely hope that you are feeling a little better today. You’re in my thoughts. 🙂🤞💐

You’re very welcome Bobbie, I hope things go as well as possible for you today. It’s bedtime here so I’ll say goodnight for now. 🙂🌸

How do you feel about other people who don’t look stunning?

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Cherry2003 in reply to Rafiki11

I think those people have insecurities just like me, but well, as many say and they are right, the blame for those insecurities and comparisons with other people, are from the makeup industries, that show us "perfect" girls, today I felt good, but I don't know if I will go back to my insecurities.

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Rafiki11 in reply to Cherry2003

Right, but do you look down on ugly people? Do you lift up pretty people? Do you treat ugly people and pretty people equitably?

I hope you are able to get some restful sleep Bobbie. 🙂🌺

If you check my reply you will see that I did call you Bobbie!

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