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Ashamed due to humiliation

Good evening. I put up an ugly pic of myself cause nobody ever believes me when I say I get judged due to being scary looking. I have horrific sagging on my lower face around the mouth. Its genetic and all i ever do is cry my eyes out like right now due to the hurt ppl cause me😥. I love being agorophobic cause then nobody can hurt me! I can't live like this one more day! I guess you can all judge me too if you want. Ill try to understand but it will be painful. I have to go to PAWS in the morning and feeling overwhelmed with anxiety now and do not want to go. I'm trying to talk myself out of feeling hurt but it kills me to my soul! I have nobody who is willing to understand this kind of humiliation I deal with everyday since I was just a kid. All I know is that ppl never talk to me in person like cause I'm ugly I'm just a piece of trash? All I've ever wanted is to just fit in!😥 I'm learning fast that that's never going to happen!! Sorry for crying and being upset but I had to get it out. Have a great evening.

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I zoomed you picture: you are beautiful...I don't understand what you see in yourself what i don't see(i am honest with you)...Please love yourself and like yourself, you deserve it. Hugs and support to you.

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I thank you but its so scary and ppl always roll their lip up with that disgusted look. That's what kills me. I'm so devastated crying my eyes out I just wish I was dead. I can't take this pain anymore

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I appreciate you even speaking to me I truly do. Means so much!

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of course i do, i respect you, i feel how difficult it is for you, i want to hug you and give you this confidence that you are great, beautiful and have nothing to be ashamed of.

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Hey girlie, you are NOT UGLY. That is your mind playing tricks on you. You have the prettiest, brightest blue eyes I’ve ever seen. I’m so sorry that your feeling this way, but YOU ARE WRONG! I wish I could bring you some food, chick flicks, & just hug you until you feel better! I am here for you whenever you need me. I love you! Please stay strong! <3

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Girl I love you too! Your the sweetest person you really are. Like I always say nobody will ever say oh yes its bad or ugly to my face but it is super horrifying. Its genetics and I have no money for injections anymore. I want a facelift sooo bad! I wish we could watch movies and just laugh! Would be a dream right now. Big bear hugs back to you!!!

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Girl, I can assure you that you are not ugly. Nothing is wrong with your face. You need to honestly stop thinking this way. It's not good for you, you know? You deserve to love yourself & feel beautiful in the skin you are in. I promise that it's just your mind making you feel like that. There is honestly NOTHING wrong with you. We all have insecurities. I know what that's like. I was always jealous of the girls that had beautiful straight hair when I was a kid. I couldn't do anything to mine, & everyone always called me Julia Roberts in school. lol. Also, I am PALE & cannot tan to the save the life of me. I've learned to embrace the hair that I've been given & the skin that I am in! You are beautiful & perfect as you are! You have a gorgeous heart & that's truly what matters. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway, & I say you are gorgeous! So keep rereading my message until you feel better. I'd totally laugh with you! Love you dearly & lots of hugs to you! xoxoxo

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This girl is nice and she is also honest. Those of us who have responded to your post did not have to, we have no need to lie to you. If you really were ugly i would not have replied because i am not a plastic surgeon, i could not have helped you. Why do you think people are answering your post? Most seem shocked when they realise you have it so wrong. ❤️

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Sorry you feel this way... I looked at you picture and I think you look perfectly fine. I think your a pretty lady and think your being very hard on yourself for no reason. Hold your head high and get that thought out of your mind. I’m sure everyone on this site can find things they don’t like about themselves, that’s completely normal. Best wishes John

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Thanks iron! Thanks for the kind words. Ill really try all I can do right now.

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Your welcome , but really you have nothing to be ashamed of at all. Like I said your a pretty lady and don’t let anyone make you think otherwise. Best wishes John

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That was such a sensible answer John. A lot of women especially have insecurities about how they look or their weight etc. It is sad that so many waste the best years fretting about looks when they are meaningless.

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I agree we should have nothing to be ashamed of. I know society brainwashed people into thinking a runway model is what an average person looks like. I personally find there’s much more to looks, like a truly genuine person that’s kind and caring. Best wishes John

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I also looked at your pic and I also think you are beautiful. I am sorry you feel so bad. I don't feel very good myself. I also have low self-esteem and try to love myself but it is hard. (((Hugs))) Hope you feel better soon.

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Hi Kacey!

Speaking as a man, you are a very attractive woman!

You are seeing what you think you look like in the mirror. You have convinced yourself that's what you look like. You've blinded yourself to your own beauty!

I'm serious, not just trying to make you feel better.

I meant everything I said.

Please stop doing this to yourself!!

You are beautiful!!

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I agree with everybody. You are beautiful. Please get that thought out of your mind. Go to paws tomorrow and enjoy the company of those dogs that need some of your attention. Let them bring a smile to your face and some happiness. Please. Super hugs to you!

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You are beautiful.

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Our superstar said it all. ❤️

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I read your post and cried. Then i looked at your picture. ?????? . This has nothing to do with how you look, you are very attractive. The problem is that you see something different when you look in the mirror. It should not be about the outside appearance anyway. You know what makes a person attractive is confidence, not their features. I don’t know where you live but in the UK we have a talent show called the X factor. Again it is often not the voice alone that gets people up on their feet, it is the personality. I think you should speak to your doctor because there is help for people who , like you, think there is something wrong with them, when in reality they are lovely.

Please try to get yourself some help. Your fear is what keeps people away from you, it is nothing to do with your looks, your fear probably makes you appear angry and hostile, so of course people will keep away as they think you are angry.

Talk to someone PLEASE ❤️

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I wanted to leave you a reply but I couldn't find the ugly picture of yourself you put up. The picture I see is of a beautiful woman! 🤗

I have read a lot of your posts and you have a beautiful heart and are a genuinely caring person....and the beauty radiates through to the outside too. Everyone else here can see it...I hope you can see it to soon.

Love and Light to you 🌹❤

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You happen to look great- you just have to believe it! Did anyone actually say that to you- if they did they are really ignorant and ugly inside. Who would want to "fit in" with ignorance? May you give yourself and hug from all or us here! Also, is this some type of image that you are seeing in the mirror and we are not- like some kind of body dysmorphic image- did I say that right? I would like to walk and ride bikes with you, and walk the doggies. Please put on some rockin music Even youtube- like bugaloo Joe Bataan and dance it off!

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Hi. I really agree with everyone here. I don't see an "ugly" face. I don't see what you see.

But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what I think. And I don't think it matters what others have said to you or about you.

I don't think it matters because I think your worth doesn't come from what other people say to you or about you. And I don't think it comes from how your face looks - pretty, ugly, purple, neon... What makes us beautiful, I think, is who we are - inside our hearts. Like Helen Keller said, "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart."

So I hope you can let all those cruel & ignorant comments go. They aren't seeing the real you, anyway. 💖

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Omg! I am crying! That was beautiful!!!! 😭😭❤️❤️❤️

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Aww, I didn't mean to make you cry! You're a beautiful lady, too! Hugs, hugs, hugs!

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To echo everyone you are a beautiful lady... those sky blue eyes & I bet you have a gorgeous smile. Not only that you are amazing person inside too. Huge sweetheart. And loved by many here. Enjoy getting love by all those pups at Paws & have fun. Love you & hugs.💖

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Honest truth...i thought this was a joke when I looked at your picture..i zoomed...all I see is a real beautiful girl with stunning blue eyes.

Stay beautiful..inside and out...because you are both

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Please don’t be so self critical. You are a very attractive woman

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I don't get it Kacey. I read what you wrote and then I look at your picture. Your view of yourself is distorted for some reason. You are very pretty. The only thing missing is your smile. Others here are all saying the same thing and are being genuine. I wish you could see yourself how others really see you, not how you think they see you.

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I looked at your photo and was stuck on your eyes. You have beautiful eyes. I wish I had eyes that color. Your post breaks my heart. I wish you find peace within yourself so that you can learn to love yourself. Low self-esteem is such a terrible thing to have. I know because I've been through it and I came out on the other side. You can too. You have us to support you. <3

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You are beautiful inside and out ! Take what everyone has commented and hold it close to your heart. WE ALL LOVE YOU 🐩💞

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Awww your to SWEET shadow123!!! I had up a bad bad pic and found out who my true friends are!!! Your one of them💝 I put this pic back up cause the other one was so horrific!! Hugs and love you!! How you doing this morning?

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I'm fine my friend and very glad to hear you sounding a lot more positive. By the way both pics are great - know you won't believe me cos I'm the same...... Sometimes feeling I can't inflict myself on the world, so I understand.

We all have each other.👭👬👫

Much love and hugs right back and have a wonderful day xx

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Thanks and I'm sorry you deal with similar feelings! Its really tough and hard to understand why I'm never talked to in person. When pretty 5 years ago everybody was super nice to me. Now I'm heavier and have saggy face I'm now a piece of trash! Nothing but shallow assholes that I meet in person! I'm disgusted that I was still nice to these jerks. Anyhoo, can't let ppl get to me cause it makes me so angry!!! Hope you have an awesome and positive day!!!

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