Self esteem issues

[pamb67]

I'm always feeling bad about myself and beating myself up every day and it's horrible. I'm not a bad person , I'm kind caring hardworking so I deserve to feel good but in my mind there's a battle going on and it's exhausting. I have suffered alot of things on my life and not had good supportive parents they are abusers and I don't have contact with them for that reason. I'm not sitting here sad but I'm struggling internally and never can relax my stomach is always in knots

[Hidden]

I think you should have small goals and reward yourself when you accomplish but working is being the best you can you should reward yourself with holiday or something like new clothes or jewellery

[pamb67 in reply to Hidden]

If that for me thankyou i appreciate it 💜💕💜

[Imeallytryingmybest]

hi I want you to know that the battle will eventually slow down and I’m proud of you for speaking up in regards to how you feel lovely. It takes so much strength to talk about how it feels in your mind. Do you have a loved one that you might be able to talk to about how you feel—if not I’m always here. It can be really difficult and MUCH easier said than done I won’t lie. But you need to keep telling yourself that’s your illness talking and it’s not true. Something that has helped me personally is making it till you make it do something for yourself (self care) no matter how small every day do that. Find apart of yourslef and say I love my hair/freckles etc everyday even if you don’t beleive it trick your mind into believing it too because you deserve it and are so loved, I hope this helps, always a message away -mm

[pamb67 in reply to Imeallytryingmybest]

That's very kind of you and useful so thankyou 💕💜💕💕💜💕

[Celtic27]

Hi Pamela I'm sorry to hear you distant from your parents ! Regards your self esteem issues start within even have a pad beside you and put two sections on it write the good things about you and then the things you would like to change in your self but please don't use it to critize your self and please learn to love your self then everything else will fall in to place ! I wish you good luck and I hope you get well soon !

[designguy]

I suffered fro years with low-self-esteem and like you had a crappy childhood and poor parenting. Here is my answer to a similar post as yours that you might find helpful:

It sounds like you may be dealing with low-self-worth and low-self-esteem for whatever reason. A lot of us were never modeled healthy self-esteem or taught how to have it and were even punished and shamed for showing any signs of it or being proud of ourselves or trying to stand up for ourselves like I was. Both of my parents also had low-self-esteem themselves.

Another thing to look at is your conscious and more importantly your subconscious beliefs and programming about yourself, others and life so you can decide what beliefs still work for you and reprogram yourself with healthy beneficial ones.

There is a lot of good info on youtube about this. I like the book "Drive your own darn bus" by Julia Kristina and her website/youtube videos, also the youtube videos of Bernadette Logue and the Daily Positive and I did the Break Free program by Dr. Bernadette Sewell.

[pamb67 in reply to designguy]

Thankyou 💜💕💜

[designguy in reply to pamb67]

You're welcome, I hope it helps you, feel free to ask me any question you may have.