Self esteem issues

[Chihiro22]

I just have been feeling like I used to. Like a screw up. All I hear is these voices telling me to shut myself out and that I have always had problems. I just don't know how to make them go away.

[Hope4me2018]

When I have negative thoughts I rebuke them right away! Talk to your depression or the voices. It’s all mind control you think up you go up, you think down you go down. No one is in control of happiness but you. Trust me I’ve been there and it’s a struggle everyday. Talking helps a lot and not just in here. Look into therapy if it gets worse or some one you can confide in.

[Chihiro22 in reply to Hope4me2018]

Thank you for the advice I am in therapy but the problem is that despite doing better the voice is still there.

[Hope4me2018 in reply to Chihiro22]

This voice is telling you your not worthy? Exactly how do you feel? I would love to listen and try to get to a better place and understanding with you. Your a gorgeous young lady from what I can see of your picture. Tell me more about yourself. Let’s get some new voices going

[Chihiro22 in reply to Hope4me2018]

Thank you so much and its more about my ability and intelligence more than my looks. Like I'm not capable of doing anything right. It sounds weird to say out loud but it's what it is saying.

[Hope4me2018 in reply to Chihiro22]

Ok now I understand better, of course I’m not a therapist although I probably should be after the many therapists that I’ve seen. When things don’t go the way you plan on it or you compare yourself to others or whatever the case maybe, have you ever stopped to think that your extraordinary and not meant to perfect or the most intelligent or compared to anyone else who may just be ordinary. Your who you are for a reason and trust and believe me when I say you can and you will beat this. I’ll be praying for you and feel free to message if you need to talk more. God bless

[NeuronerdDoaty]

My grandma used to tell me we always hear the echos of people talking in our heads. She would tell me that it wasn’t a voice but an echo of something I heard somewhere. Her words were ‘pay it no mind’, hear them, but never listen. You see some people hear only good echos in their heads. No one likes them. They’re arrogant and hard to work with. Their kids never do anything wrong.

It works both ways. These are echos of the past, conversations your brain held on to, sometimes even a movie character we bonded with.

Work on being in the present. Be in the now. Tell your echos to go on down the mountains because you have now.

Just because you hear it in your head doesn’t mean it’s real. I’d be in jail because I’m totally not a thief but I’d rob that bank on the corner. I’d get caught but I am so hung up on a plan to rob that bank. It’s not real. A cashier missed a bar of soap one time and I had to get it out of the bag and make her ring it up. Honestly who feels clean with stolen soap.

See how that works? Fantasy and stray thoughts. Hear it and move on. If I call you from jail you’ll know I can’t follow my own advice. 😁