low self esteem

[reinventingmyself36]

I feel worthless and fat and dumb.

I am a 40 year old woman with no relationship experience with any man.

I haven’t made it beyond 3 dates.

the guys I like don’t like me since I’m not their type physically.

I finally stopped being superficial and the men were unattractive but I looked past that. However they just wanted something casual and one pretended to want something more. I don’t know why these guys only want me for sex and nothing else.

The most recent guy is religious (Jewish) but acts so sexual and disgusting with me but when he went out with my friend he was so respectful. I feel destroyed dejected hopeless. I also act psychotic when men don’t text back or ghost me by calling or texting them many times.. I self sabotage and then hate myself for it.

I have no self respect or self esteem. I am lost

[Starrlight]

Use positive self talk. Even when you don’t believe it at the moment because your brain does actually take things you say and make you believe.

[reinventingmyself36 in reply to Starrlight]

thank you! I went off this site a while ago and just saw your message!thank you for advice and hope your doing well

[Balloffur2468]

I agree with the first conversation. You need to be mindful of the words that you say to yourself. You definitely are not worthless. I am sure you are a wonderful person and you need a special person to realize that.

[reinventingmyself36 in reply to Balloffur2468]

thank you! Been off this site for a while and saw your message thanks for helpful advice

[Hidden]

Hi I never had any girls in my life and I always wished I will care for my girlfriend or even I did get married I want to see her always happy. I only want to say that you will find a loving and caring person when the right time comes, my wish is that you find a man who will always will care for you.

[reinventingmyself36 in reply to Hidden]

thank you! Sorry for late reply! I’m sure it will happen or has happened for you by now.

[dancerline]

dont give up hope, thats the one thing no-one can take from us...if I were you and ive been there where my self-esteem was in the muck, concentrate on beginning a journey first to like yourself then eventually to love yourself, get that dignity back, its a long journey and took me years and when I found myself actually thinking hey I am ok, the right person came along for me . I didnt 'need' a man but he has made my life complete, good luck

[reinventingmyself36 in reply to dancerline]

thank you for your supportive words. I will try not to. Sorry for late reply just started using this site again

[Tigerlilly7]

Hello

So sorry your feeling this way

I myself have no self esteem or confidence

and find it hard to see why anyone would want anything to do with me

I have learned though that some men will take advantage of us and we subconsciously allow it because we don’t think we deserve better!

I would suggest practice self care!

Sounds cringe but learn to love yourself!

When you have self worth you will invite the decent sort of men.

Good luck 😊

[reinventingmyself36 in reply to Tigerlilly7]

thank you! Sorry late reply. Just seeing this message