My Self Esteem is terrible

[Healthybrain]

I know relationships are hard so maybe I am just over reacting. I had been best friends with a guy for ten years before we decided to start dating. Through this time I had explained to him that I have never liked the way I look so when we started dating I thought it was something I wouldn’t have to worry about with him. Throughout our relationship he refused to tell me that I was beautiful if I looked nice. After sleeping together he would comment on my body including statements about stretch marks that I have on my thighs saying that I look so much uglier with them. He would point out my scoliosis, my sometimes frizzy hair and glasses. These comments only become worse towards the end of our relationship. Since the comments started I’ve hated my looks and my personality. It has been 9 months since I ended things but I no longer can look in the mirror without crying feeling so ugly. I don’t know what to do. Maybe he was right and I am unlovable and ugly. Are there any ideas on how to get my self esteem up?

[Dolphin14]

Healthybrain

Welcome to the community.

I have many words I want to say regarding this " friend" none of them are appropriate for this forum.

Don't let one ignorant, cruel person take you down like this. He ruined you and now you have to put the pieces back together.

I'm very sorry you went through this

🐬

[hypercat54]

'Overreacting'? To someone who constantly tells you that you are ugly?

No way. Huge 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 so well done for getting rid.

Oh and if he found you so ugly why did he start a relationship with you or sleep with you too?

He was a user/abuser.

[Turnipgirl in reply to hypercat54]

Ugly is a kids insult and it's pathetic when a grown adult uses it!

[hypercat54]

I will tell you what is most attractive in a person and it has nothing to do with physical appearance.

Its those who are happy in their skin which makes them beautiful and attracts more people to you.

Try and deal with your low self esteem issues, maybe through therapy.