Friends

[Blu_A25]

I find myself going above and beyond for my friends but , don’t get the same in return . Not expecting anything because I’ve always been a firm

Believer I’m going to do what I can for you and don’t expect anything back in return . I’ve noticed that most of my friends are just taking , taking , taking and, I can’t even get a simple text, or they will say their going to come to events that are free “trails, walking, beach” ect. But don’t show up do not text or anything til the last minute and try to throw it on me or make up an excuse . I feel like once you show me your ass I’m done. It’s already hard for me to go out of my way to do things so when I do it would be nice to get the same in return . ( I show up to your events ) being the supporter friend but it seems like they don’t care. So now I have come to the conclusion I will have empathy but not to the extent of keeping myself wide open.

[Hidden]

Sometimes good friends are hard to find. So many people want to talk, but I think some people just don't know how to sit back and just really listen. And I've said this before, but I think facebook makes a joke out of the word friend. I'm sorry you're having this experience.

[Blu_A25 in reply to Hidden]

Gm , yeah i am a good listener but it’s coming to a head . I think that’s why I joined this group no one listens to me !!

[Hidden in reply to Blu_A25]

I hear you. I might seem like I'm very talkative on here but really if you knew me, I'm very quiet a lot of the time.

[Blu_A25 in reply to Hidden]

I am the same way . Taking on our people’s emotions and energy is exhausting. I won’t stop caring because that’s who I am but I know my expectations is what I need to change. Just accept people for who they are at a healthy distance .

[Ladybug9]

Expectations of others will hurt us faster than anything else. Some people are givers and some are takers. That's just the way it is. But we have to decide if we are willing to accept people just as they are. We can learn something from everyone.

[Blu_A25 in reply to Ladybug9]

I am willing to accept healthy relationships but these are friends I’ve been with since school days I’ve been out of school for 10 years . I think I’m out growing these relationships cause everyone’s happy when I have something to give if I don’t have anything . No one speaks to me . But I feel like all my “friends” have went to shit. I have a baby now I can’t “run the streets” like they want “find the next high” I’m not that person . So I made a decision to not enable any of them anymore .

[Ladybug9 in reply to Blu_A25]

I'm proud of you!

[Bears2333]

This has been the story of my life. You are not alone on this. I’ve always felt like I’ve put more of an effort and it gets frustrating.

[pam4him]

Life can sometimes seem so unfair. People inherently tend to be selfish, maybe not too obviously, but on some level, maybe even subconsciously. That selfishness can come across in various ways. Like overtaking conversations, having the last word, comparing stories and trying to one up other people. We don't always realize we are even doing it. If you've noticed a trend, it may be time for a change. You may need to take inventory of friends and consider which ones to develop a deeper relationship with and which ones to let go, which ones to invest your time in and when to say no to requests for your time. Prayers for wisdom, guidance and peace.

[VDC1]

There’s definitely an exchange of value in a friendship, like any business transaction. Friends usually exchange favours, support, even money, but if it comes too one sided then you have to simply find new friends who will reciprocate what you have to offer