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Are my friends still my friends?

Hi everyone,

So since my anxiety started a few months ago I slowly started distancing myself from everyone pretty much, other than my SO (significant other). My friends and family but mainly my friends. It's weird for me, I use to be so happy and carefree always making plans and wanting to hang out with my friends every chance I get. Now I barely see any of them.

So I reached out to my close friends again, since I haven't hung out or spoke to them in about 2-3 months. They welcomed me back of course, it was no surprise I was going through a hard time I told them about it. I tried making plans they fell through, I usually hit them up first, its rare if they call or text me first (with the exception to one friend). I just feel like they don't care about what I'm going through or me at this point or they just don't want to be around me anymore because I'm a "Debby downer." I understand life happens, all my friends are adults, some have kids, so we're all busy... but its like I changed and they just forgot about me... I just feel so alone.

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I do the same when I’m depressed and anxious but your real friends will always be there willing to take you back. Try to reach out to them to break the negativity that anxiety creates for us.

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Thank you. I will try again. :)

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I understand, and am glad you reached out. Your feelings are yours , and it's good to vent. Continue to reach out to your friends. The real ones will be there. Remember also that friendship is voluntary.

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I will keep that in mind. I like that you said friendship is voluntary... and your right my true friends will come back around when necessary. :)

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Remember that you can't read your friends' minds. They may feel like they're intruding on you, or maybe they're just used to you distancing yourself. It's okay to put yourself out there and give them time to get used to being back. If they treat you well and care about you, that's what counts.

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