Losing all friends

[cinnamonapple89]

So you may remember my post about social anxiety. My best friend is now upset with me because she hasn’t heard from me in a couple weeks. I told her it has nothing to do with her I just haven’t been feeling like speaking to anyone that j don’t absolutely have to (ie at work). I hate when people take what I’m going through as something against them. I literally just want to stay to myself. Having friends seems like such a chore that I can’t keep up with. They just make me feel guilty or feel selfish. And it’s like I can see how someone can take depressive symptoms as the person being selfish so at this point I’ve embraced it and just deal with people as they come. I hate these added elements to already feeling bad about myself. I just want everyone to understand or leave me alone because honestly anything requiring a little effort isn’t getting done by me right now. It’s too much

[Hidden]

Yes, it’s really difficult, some friends don’t really get it at all, and take it personally..I think it’s why I now do lots of things alone...I find sadly I just can’t provide what friends want from me...😞

The friends I’ve kept ,funny enough, live far away and it kinda suits we see each other infrequently, I think that’s why it works...it can go months without arrangements...which suits me..it’s nice to have them there but at a distance..

You are not alone 🌺🌷🌺🌷

[cinnamonapple89 in reply to Hidden]

“I can’t provide what friends what from me” SAME!!!!

[Hidden in reply to cinnamonapple89]

I hear ya !

[michelle2018]

I have a “friend” that will only text me when her BF is working and she is bored. She does not text much anymore cause I am tired of being last hope to do anything. She has no idea how much it hurts when we used to do everything together.

[Forestina]

I moved to a new area so all my fends are long distance ones. Texts and e mails are more than enough. Due to the distance I am very unsure that I shall see then again.

I have a friend who knows I have been ill and never once gets in touch. If I e mail she will reply. I have decided after forty years to walk away.

[Hidden]

Same... lost loads of people...

Have zero energy for humans sometimes to be honest... but then sometimes I miss them ... but then friends are supposed to be there even when you’re rock bottom so dunno 🤷‍♀️

[Hidden]

It’s why I don’t have “friends”. People can be a pain in the butt. Less aggravation that way. Not everyone needs a close friend.

[Lyn842]

You said it yourself. They don't understand. All you can do is try to assure them that it's Not them, it's you. Maybe you will not always feel this way. For your sake I hope not. People need people. We are not meant to isolate. Because you feel that when you go out you can't fake it with them. So it's easier to stay alone. If you told them the truth don't you think it would help them understand. I know when I am isolating. I feel I can't fake that I'm ok. I wish you the best.