Issues with kissing

[matt17]

I experienced an uncomfortable feeling while ‘making out’ with my new girlfriend a couple times recently.

We have been intimate for a month or so, together for a bit longer, and this is the first time this has come up.

If I’m honest I just wasn’t really enjoying it. I do enjoy soft kisses, cuddling, body kisses, etc. just not really making out.

I told her about it and she was pretty receptive. However she did have some anxiety about it because one of her exes who was manipulative told her he “didn’t love her” and that he “couldn’t kiss her” because of that.

The difference in my situation is that I am deeply and madly in love with this girl and would never ever manipulate her.

So I guess my question is, is this normal? Can our relationship be healthy without making out? What kind of advice do you guys have on moving forward positively?

Thank you guys so much ☺️

[olidaman]

I'm no expert but maybe try to explore different ways to show affection and intimacy like going on a date or doing things you both enjoy. I reckon this is normal as everyone has different preferences when it comes to this sort of thing. Best thing is to communicate with each other but you two seem to already be doing well on that.

[Hidden]

I think it's really mature and brave of you to come on here and bring this up. I'm a way older woman on here. I'd say it's okay to take things slow. You can hold hands, just hang out together, slow dance. And just ask her Is this okay with You? Okay Romeo, you've got this!!!

[Laurennnnnnn]

I’ve honestly never liked kissing lol. I like other forms of intimacy but never enjoyed kissing.

I love my boyfriend now and even then I’m indifferent with it

[Relly26]

That happened to me b4 too and I was wondering what it was. Now that you posted something about it I know what it is. My friend with benefits will pick what we do most of the time and I got uncomfortable with what we did 1 time. And I think that you should tell your girlfriend what you like, idk. I don't relly have no advice to give you about that.

[VDC1]

Is her name Melissa ? Lol..