Just looking for some encouragement! I am suffering so bad!! I’m with my kids in my house for the weekends while my wife leaves to her moms during our separation. I am feeling really sad today after seeing her before she left! This is so HARD!!!!
We plan on filing for divorce in March and I am devastated. This is her decision as she said she is no longer in love with me.
I just needed to write this post because I love you guys and gals on this site and it makes me feel a little better to get it out.
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Thank you Mary, there is a tiny shred of hope but I’m not counting on anything at this point.
I know God has me now and I will remain strong for the kids.
I just go through strong moments then really sad moments.
I know everything will be ok but geez this is soooo hard!!! 🥺🙏🏻
Believe in yourself that you can do whatever you need to when you set your mind firmly! We all believe in you be able to sort it out these stuffs. You must be having a hard time with isolation from your wife and others. It would be good to have a regular exercise to beat up those cruel feelings with plenty of Serotonin!
If you believe in any of religions, try having faith by that with community people from the religion. Wish you a good luck, mate, stay safe all the way on treating your mental issues and whole context as possible. It is possible, and you can do it with strong faith and no fear!
It's great that you are trying to find a support in this community. Welcome!
Usually “I dont love you anymore” means theres someone else. Has she admitted to infidelity? Have you guys tried any marital counseling? I hate that this is happening and do upsetting for everyone, moreso when there are kids. I hope you have some support in your corner to help you. Prayers for you all💜
There is no one else she is going through the whole stay at home mom, kids are older and in school now, she is about to turn 40 and she doesn’t know who she is now.
We are in counseling now and she said she hasn’t been in love with me for the past 6 years!
That hurts. Maybe a long separation, let her be lonely, see how much fun being divorced isnt would be helpful. I feel for you. We watched our son who is now 40 go thru an awful painful divorce because his wife cheated many times. Only good thing is he found a great woman who see’s his value. They have been happily married 7 yr now. Just dont give up hope for yourself.
I am so sorry. I misunderstood. I thought you and she were in marital counseling to see if you could work things out. Does this mean she has definitely decided on
divorce ? It sounds like that is the case.
I hope you will continue in therapy for support.
Look, nobody is perfect ! The thing about marriage is that it takes two to communicate and get along. Please do not blame yourself.
It is sad but you will get through it and hopefully your future will be happier and you find love to last forever .
For now I know you are grieving. Best wishes. Give your kids extra hugs!
Thank you! We are in counseling to see if there is any hope because we can’t file until March for financial reasons. So there is a small chance we will figure it all out but very slim after our 1st session.
Thank you for the support, it means a lot when you’re feeling this way!
I am so very very sorry for you and your families situation my friend. We are here for you. I won’t pretend that I have all the answers. But I think taking one day at a time is a good start. Those babies of yours will give you all the strength that you need. Talk and keep talking. Lean on the good people here for comfort. Take good care of you.
Hey bro, I am in the exact same boat. Just filed for divorce a few days ago and it is driving me crazy. The pain is insane, and it is only compounded by the fact that she is leaving me for the same guy she cheated on me with 2 years ago.
I know it sucks man, I wish I could encourage you but honestly I might be just as bad if not worse off than you. See my wife was diagnosed with two personality disorders and hasn't exactly been the best partner.
She's got BPD and PTSD from a messed up childhood, and sometimes I wonder if she might also have NPD because she has pretty much all the traits. Basically I am in a mountain of debt, like more debt than money I have made in my life. My psychological state is destroyed. I have held out for a long time working long hours at shitty jobs but I have been unemployed for the last few months and I think that's what triggered it.
Basically she has just been taking and taking from everything and giving nothing back. I am totally desolate. A little embarrassed to admit it, but I know how much it sucks so I wanted to reach out.
Sorry to hear this my friend. Definitely sounds like we are in a similar situation. I have 2 kids, she has been a stay at home mom for the past 6 years while I provided 100% including moving 3 times for her, private preschool for both kids, Land Rover because she wanted one and on and on and on and at the first sight of freedom with the kids in school she throws out the husband with the garbage and will get over $3k a month between CS and Alimony because of my income. Unbelievable!
Makes me feel like a total chump on top of being sad.
Shit man, that sound aweful! I just posted my full story if you want the grimy details of my situation as well. Wish there was just a way to stop our brains from going insane. Dunno if there is a secure way to send you my contact info, but if so I'll give you my number or email if you wanna keep in touch.
I just read your post. That is some tough stuff. Just know you are not alone there are hundreds of us going through the same shit!!!
I go through waves of emotions sometimes every couple of minutes from rage to forgiveness to pain to sadness to insecurity to anxiety to hopelessness etc...
We just have to take it one hour at a time right now!
Just know that there are more of us going through this and honestly probably even worse than we have it.
I am so sorry this has happened. I was divorced a long time ago and thought that the pain would never end. Even my husband, (who initiated the divorce) said that he wouldn't wish his pain on anyone. It did get better with time. I came to think of it as a withdrawal, that was worse in the beginning and then became better until I was happy without him. I think to some extent that may be true, if I think of things like neurotransmitters and stress, but I am not a psychiatrist. Try to just hold on. During times like these, it sometimes helps to focus on your work, and, or course your children's love. I hope that things get better day by day
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