Marriage

[Glitter28]

I’m very down today my S.O. Said he wasn’t happy with me and is always criticizing me about my weight and everything is my fault. He barely talks to me and quit telling me he loves me but I still love him very much and in the back of my mind I’m wondering if he has found someone else because he’s unhappy with me and I can’t stop thinking about it. It’s depressing to know that I do so much for him and this is the results I get!

[PT81]

That’s not very kind of him! No wonder you’re feeling down. Do something nice for yourself, you need a break. I hope it all works out for you.

[Glitter28 in reply to PT81]

Thanks! Yes I do need a break for sure😊

[Hidden]

First, according to the standard health BMI charts (doctors use this to gauge BMI for health purposes, medication prescribing, etc.) your in the middle of the chart which puts you at a very healthy weight according to your height and current weight that I saw on another thread. So while this may not be your ideal weight where you feel comfortable, our health isn’t in danger. You could tell your husband this and tell him to back off his snide comments and trying to put you down. In the meantime adding a small snack (think 250 calories or so - read the nutrition labels on the food you eat and just add a tiny more to your portions) and you’ll put on 1/2 pound per week and in a healthy manner should you want to gain.

Next, I see from others threads and comments your worst problem seems to be your husband/marriage and it’s effects on your mental health and could your physical health should you lose more weight and become underweight because of it.

What should you do? This is a personal decision but maybe this should involve personal counseling for yourself and couples counseling if he was ever willing to go. You need to take care of you and the amount of time and energy you give to him is taking away from yourself. He seems to be miles away (figuratively) from wanting to be part of the solution. Marriage survival takes both parties willing to put in the work, if communication stops the marriage does to. Your circumstances can change for the betterment of your mental health with coping strategies to deal with your personal needs and your depression and perhaps outside help to mend your marriage. I wish you the best. 🌸💜

[Glitter28 in reply to Hidden]

Yes that’s what I was thinking when he said that about my weight. Cause I am short lol and I could be 100 pounds and still be within my BMI range. And I plan on setting up with a counselor maybe he will agree to marriage counseling that would be great cause I do want this marriage to work because we are already invested in each other as far as years and a child together. But thanks so much for being encouraging I will definitely take your advice😊

[hypercat54]

Hi I would look into the cost of childcare, work out how much you could earn, and remind him that if you are working too he will have to do his share of household chores. See how quickly he goes off the idea! Oh and don't forget to include the cost of gym membership and a weight loss programme.

[Hidden]

I dont think I could live with a person who constantly insults me, etc. If you owned a dog and all they did was growl and bite you, would you keep it?

[Glitter28 in reply to Hidden]

Hell no I wouldn’t lol and that is a good way to put it😆