I’m feeling very alone and invisible. I’ve been with my partner for 14 years, and the last 10 or so have been almost completely without sexual intimacy.... like 1-12x a year....He just has no interest as far as I can tell. We’re both only in our early 30s, and he’s physically healthy except for being overweight. I’ve talked to him about it countless times and it always comes down to him saying he just is never “in the mood”. Ive tried a bunch of different ways to “spice things up”, and it’s always just “no”. I sincerely don’t believe that he is cheating on me... but I don’t know what to think or what to do. I’m baffled and so hurt. I can’t live like this forever, but I can’t see myself leaving him either. I’m just so tired of being rejected by my own husband. I know I shouldn’t base my self esteem on my attractiveness to others, but as a young woman it’s hard to be placed in this completely asexual role - especially when I have a very healthy sex drive. I’m getting very depressed. I’ll take any words of encouragement or advice anyone can offer. I have no one to talk to about this.