Heartbroken

[Miserable2020]

My husband of 22 yrs just thru me out. He can’t deal with my depression and has called me every name in the book. I can’t take it

[Cu4josh]

Be patient and forgive he can’t see your problem as depression is invisible

[Miserable2020 in reply to Cu4josh]

He said he’s been patient over a yr and I was worthless a bitch stupid and I don’t deserve him

[hypercat54 in reply to Miserable2020]

Well you don't deserve to be called abusive names either. Remind him of his marriage vows in 'sickness and in health'. You do deserve a lot better than this. Maybe he's the one who should be chucked out of the marital home?

[Smarticus]

His loss not a helpful answer really but true.

[Mary-intussuception]

Where are you now?

You can't be 'thrown out' of your home by your spouse.

You have a right to be there.

Have you been violent to him?

Who is helping you?

Are you in the UK ? If so, have you heard of 'SHOUT' ? The Mental Health charity?

Anyone in a personal crisis can text the word -. SHOUT to 85258. Then someone will text back to help you.

Other than that Google search Domestic Abuse charities for help with either someone to talk to (which can be anonymously if you prefer) or for someone to collect you and take you to a temporary place to stay a while.

All the best.

Let's know how you are. Don't go through this alone.

If things settle down and you stay at home, make sure to keep yourself safe - give each other some space for a while, avoid an argument.

Just refuse to hear harsh words and insults. He'll stop when he realises he's wasting his breath. Walk away, go into the garden or another room, leave him talking to himself.

[Miserable2020]

My husband has never been violent it’s been mental abuse for yrs and yrs. sometimes I wish I had a slap on the face instead of his words. That cuts worse than anything

[EuroJoy]

Where are you staying now? Is the house under both your names? If so, he can't just throw you out! Can you take help of social services? I am so sorry to hear about this. Maybe it is good for your own sake (and for your husband) to have some distance apart to sort things through in your mind. I would recommend you see a professional counselor or therapist to talk things through about your depression. I do hope that you will find hope in the midst of all this darkness. Are there any good friends who you can share your burdens with? Or a pastor type of person who will care and listen? I do hope and pray that both you and your husband can take this time to reflect on your own issues, your marriage and then hopefully come back together again. 22 years is a long time to just erase! There must have been many good things in your marriage and I sincerely hope your husband will remember these. Sending you good wishes and healing from depression.

[Miserable2020 in reply to EuroJoy]

I’m at his house I threw him outta mine let my son and his family stay rent free had a nervous breakdown and came back to Matt. Big mistake only reason I’m here is money cause I have no job but I hate this mf so bad