Heartbroken

[PackerGirl]

I’m new to this site so I’m hoping what I’m about to share is ok. I’m just feeling very sad, betrayed and very alone. Recently someone who I had considered my surrogate family told me that when she was a kid depression and anxiety weren’t a thing and that I just need to grow the f up. I was shocked, still am. I know unless you’ve been through it, it’s difficult to empathize yet I feel her response was fairly cold and harsh. I’d just love to hear that anyone can relate, generally speaking, to depression and anxiety turning your life upside down and resulting in more losses than one could imagine...

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Hi.

I wanted to say hello and welcome to you 😊

I’m sorry to hear of your struggles.

This forum has helped me so much. Over time , I’ve picked up lots of tips and reading posts realised I’m not alone. Other members become familiar over time and it’s lovely to have these forum friends, who support each other in various ways, here online.

I’m glad you found us here,

Look forward to seeing you around here 😊🌻🌻

[PackerGirl in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much for replying Olivia, I appreciate it greatly. What you described having found within this forum is exactly what I feel I’m in need of. I look forward to learning more about you and others. Thanks again 😊☘️

[Hidden in reply to PackerGirl]

I just read your bio, thanks for sharing.

Similar to me in a lot of ways.

Had to stop working due to a breakdown, and I’m a different person now ..I was a workaholic.

..In some ways, although it has been a really really tough thing to happen, I can see that making me stop, has also had advantages over time.

Small achievements can mean much more to me.

I guess it’s been like starting over , my life has changed so much. It’s taken quite a bit of getting used to...I still stop and think 🤔’what happened’

And I’m surprised, so very surprised how I have coped, and I have 😊

Take care 🌻🌻

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Welcome to the site. You've come to the right place and don't have to be alone anymore. There are plenty of people here with feelings and experiences just like yours, who will share with you.

I have a Major Anxiety and Depression Disorder and PTSD. And know the loneliness we feel when someone tells us to just "stop it."

Don't they think that if I could stop it I would? But it's not really their fault. They're just ignorant. Unless you struggle with this disease, you have no idea what it feels like.

For years, I had no clue.

So just keep posting and let us know how you're feeling. We're here for you.

[PackerGirl in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Thank you for your response, it made me feel less alone - which I’m grateful for. I’ll “look forward” to hearing more about our shared experiences, validation truly can be a coping skill if used appropriately I think. Thank you again - 💚☘️

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and yes depression and anxiety turned my life upside down too, quite some time ago now,that will resonate with a lot of us. Unfortunately some just don’t understand it and react badly to it for that reason.

I think you altered the content of your post and I’d already written a reply ..that’s fine, I often change or edit a post too..😊

What you have written is fine

You are not alone

X

[PackerGirl in reply to Hidden]

I’m not sure what I’m doing on here in terms of appropriately posting so I’m not sure what I did but I did get both your messages. Thank you for saying I’m not alone, my isolation and lack of support has resulted in overwhelming feelings of loneliness. It’s just hard not to feel understood, aside from my therapist. Thank you again, so much for your words, they really helped tonight. 💚

[Hidden in reply to PackerGirl]

m so glad my reply helped.

Don’t worry about your postings your doing it absolutely fine 😊 and you will soon be so used to it..

A lot of us isolate, me included, it can feel so lonely at times, but then I tend to not always want someone around , a total contradiction goes on. It’s a kind of internal loneliness that sometimes isn’t resolved easily...

It has taken me quite some time, but I don’t beat myself up about isolating when I need to nowadays, although when I feel a little better I attempt a walk , I gradually begin to do things,

Distraction from our worries and concerns is a great thing, not always easy but distraction techniques are different for everyone, we are all quite unique in what works for us, it takes time to find useful tools, but believe me it can be done and helps.

I’m glad you have a therapist, I found a lot out via my various therapists over time.

The knowledge gained helps to better manage our condition , knowledge is power. What better place to gain it than here, amongst those who understand..

Reading posts here taught me so much , over time.

Hang in there

There’s a lot of us here who do understand 🌻🌻🌻 keep posting ,replying ,and reading posts x