Mothers, who'd have them!

[Philjc]

My mum won't take painkiller ,antihistamine, cough medicine, antacid or any over the counter treatment when ill , the most she will take is a mint if she has discomfort.

When she was bringing us up she never wanted to make a fuss about herself and dedicated her life to us and caring for Dad, until he passed.

I stress constantly and get told to stop being concerned, I have depression and she seems to exacerbate it because she will never ease her symptoms. Any tips? (She always says the fact that she is on warfarin means a home remedy could kill her , and would I want that on my conscience.)

[kenster1]

hey your mum is the exact same as my mum was.

[Philjc in reply to kenster1]

So, without wanting to cause upset, you say "was", how did it resolve? Or didn't it? x.

[kenster1 in reply to Philjc]

my mum had septicaemia she never took a tablet ever started off with untreated infection.if she took penicillin things could have been different.if its obvious your mum is unwell always call a doctor.my family thought I was mad as it was me who noticed her becoming ill weeks before we knew what she had.

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Well she is right with the blood thinner. Even diet can put her in jeapordy. I'm sorry you are hurting. We are here for you.

[Arniestal]

My mum was like that, she would never take anything just put up with it all. Never made a fuss I would say you are like the queen holding it all in. But this has not helped me at all, only found out after we lost her she had kidney disease and was on no meds!! Terrible osteoporosis and wouldn't take tabs. Left me so guilty and feeling so bad because I should have stood over her while she took tablets. Sure they think by not making a fuss they are helping you nooooi they are not. I think maybe they think nothing will happen to them she had convinced me of that so the shock of losing her 23 months today is still so great.

Try, try to get your mum to look after herself better, if I could turn back the clock I wouldn't have left my mums side.

[6ixtyon1]

Some folks get ingrained that way...that is not your fault. I don't know why these things happen...has she ever said why she has this point of view--besides, being more concerned about everyone elses' health? You could suggest that health is a two-way street...you'll sleep easier, knowing that she has some comfort working for her...

If she does explain the why's and refuses to do anything to alleviate her pain, just be very open with yourself--and others--and state that this is her belief...period.

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Sad to say this does happen, you need to understand the reasons why and work around the problem.

Have you tried or considered ways getting around taking medications ? The attitude She is showing, for example if I die taking heart medications need to be answered in a more positive way For example when She will not take them, and then make you feel bad if she does take the drug and die, needs to be turned around, where you explain if she does not take them and dies you fill feel guilty, that you were unable to get Her take the drug and does die because of that.

Sometimes a small glass of milk can take away the taste of the drug, some older people have problems gagging and will spit it out. Sometimes a spoonful of honey or a piece of chocolate will help.

BOB

[seamonkee114]

My father was the same way. He

never took pain pills, for post

surgery needs. I think this is

the way that generation was.

My grandma and grandpa, came

over to New York. Directly from

Britain. They were imigrants,

from Ireland.