Does any one have an advice?

[PinkDamsel]

Today is absolutely a bad day, I was told by my inlaw that I will never be a good mother, a good grandmother and that she hopes I die. She followed me around the house screaming obscenities at me. I've taken my anti anxiety meds and its not working any advice. No, I'm not thinking of harming myself I will not give her that satisfaction. But if anyone has advice Im willing to listen. No I can't leave, I live in Florida and theres Covid, that was honestly my first thought and realistically can't leave... not right now anyway

[Hidden]

My solution would be to punch the bitch in the mouth. But that's probably a bad idea. Some people are just evil, mean vindictive people. And they hate themselves and rather than work on making themselves happy they want to make everyone else miserable. Since that's easier. Have you told you husband what she's doing to you?

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

He knows whats going on, he's told me she's been like that all his life. Hes also a long haul truck driver so I dont blame him nor do I expect him to drop everything because his mom has issues. He has repeatedly told her whats wrong with her but you can't beat a dead horse, sort of speak. You did however manage to make me chuckle when you said to punch her, if I wasn't afraid of going to jail that may have been an option but lets face it Im afraid of jail, yea I'll admit to that. Thank you RKJ33

[Hidden in reply to PinkDamsel]

What about going on the road with him? And he has to work but he should be concerned for his wife and trying his best to get you into a safe home. Away from his abusive mother.

[PinkDamsel in reply to Hidden]

We have children and can't uproot them, but we have made plans to leave in the by October. But a narcissistic is losing control and this is whats happening...

[Hidden in reply to PinkDamsel]

So sorry ik what that's like. If it will help I'm here to talk to message me any time.

[B4andafter]

There's a reason they name inlaws as "outlaws". Stay away from her as much as possible. She's the problem not you so don't listen to her rants .

[Hidden]

I think the wrong person is taking the meds to be honest! What sane person would say that to anyone! A really nasty piece of work and best out of her place.

[JkBauer]

You should call the National Domestic Violence Hotline [phone]. - I know that she is your mother in law, but she is still being abusive towards you and these counselors can help you find direction.

[jayT67]

I've been through something like this with my mother and it's definitely a hard thing to deal with. Like after you hear something so many times you start to believe it but trust me nothing what she says is true. What helped me a lot is I started a saying in my head for when my mom would say things to me. An example is she would say I look extra round that day so i would walk out of the room and tell myself I am loved, I am beautiful, and I am strong and those words have gotten me through so much. Create your own and give it a try. If they can tell you cruel things you can tell yourself beautiful things.

XOXO

Jay

[Purrsona]

Oh wow, I am so sorry. I hope you can move the hell out of there as soon as you can. And honestly, I think having an insane, abusive MIL is more than enough cause for you to ask your husband to drop everything and help you out. But I understand work situations might not be understanding of this, more's the pity. I'm just wondering, how have you reacted? You are obviously not to blame in any case, but perhaps switching tactics might surprise her into backing off? Either being assertive if you've been trying to ignore her, or ignoring her if you've been trying to reason with her?

Sorry I can't offer better advice. This godawful woman can go to hell.

[PinkDamsel in reply to Purrsona]

I've been keeping my distance from her. She believes she's done nothing wrong, she believes I'm the problem not her so our plan was to move to South Dakota in June but now we're moving in October, fast tracking it a bit. Its all we can do, my husband has spoken to her but she still think that screaming at me was justifiable, her reasoning was she was just angry. So anxiety and depression has become a constant companion since this all started. Im grateful for every message that offered a shoulder, but Im here hurting wondering aren't women suppose to uplift each other because enough men and women bash other women for this that and the other. I've always been the kind of woman who compliments another woman. But hearing another woman call her a bitch or a bad mom really is unsettling. Maybe my own thoughts thats why Im hurting and can't get pass it. Thank for the message, i appreciate you reading it, Purrsona.

[Purrsona in reply to PinkDamsel]

No, I think it's totally legitimate to be upset with people for using anti-women slurs. She's not horrible because she's a woman and an MIL, she's horrible because she's following you around yelling abuse at you. I've certainly said "bitch" (and worse) when really angry, though not to anyone's face, so I know it's an ingrained habit, but you're right, we should be more careful.