I'm depressed with little support

[aspcz]

Hello everyone. About six months ago I was diagnosed with depression when I went to see my gp over something else. He eventually referee me to a psychiatrist who made the diagnosis and immediately commenced a treatment plan. I was placed on an ssr 10mg anti depressant and Ritalin for my add. From time to time I've been prescribed xanax for a few days. I see my therapist once a week on Tuesdays. But problems at home are getting worse as my wife is dealing with ppd Which she will not get treated and it has affected the way of life of me and my son. She's soo angry passive aggressive and not mindful with words. Last week she took her anger to another level and hit me with a steel bar while I was holding our 6 month old son. She bunched and slapped me around and eventually locked me and my son out of the house. I broke down the door when I thought she was trying to take her life but she was actually attempting to burn my clothes. I was outside in the cold with our son before we broke the door. She insulted me and called me all kinds of names hurt me by making reference to my past suicidal life and me being molested as a child. I got angry with her and asked her to leave our marital home. She refused and I threatened to contact victim support to take her out of our house she then called her friends and family and peddled lies and acted like the victim when she left the house. She asked an Aunt of hers to pick her up and told her I was abusive when the opposite was true. To be honest I had hit her once years earlier in our relationship but have never repeated those actions I repented and got help and never ever threatened her with violence. The time I hit her a few years ago it was a slap to the cheek not a hospitalization sort of injury but I've never done it since. Now she's left with out 6 month old daughted yes I asked her to leave coz I didn't feel safe but I miss our daughter and I feel alone as she seems to have all the support while I just have my therapist once a week. I was traumatized by Wht she did. She emphasized that she should have harmed me more that she should have stabbed me. Now I can't help but blame myself for her actions. I don't think me and her will ever be able to get along again. I feel so hurt and my medication is hardly helping.

[AZ1970]

What a difficult situation. I would feel helpless and depressed as well. Do you have documentation of her threats? I don't know the laws where you live, but where I am a mother who was violent would not be allowed to have a child in her custody. Are there legal actions you can take?

[aspcz in reply to AZ1970]

I don't have documentation of her threats but rather a witness who saw what happened. She may not be credible because she's my godmother. But I took pictures of my injuries and the damage done to things in the house. Also I'm in Uganda and law enforcement here is very biased towards women. Abused men are stigmatized.

[aspcz in reply to AZ1970]

Thank you very much for your support.

[b1b1b1]

If you can, I would hire a lawyer, and follow his advice.

[Jimdubu]

I am really sorry you are feeling this way, I can’t imagine what you must be going through. It's not easy when a relationship is having troubles. just know that there are people who care about you and love you and want you to be safe. Is there anyone you can talk to? A close friend, Pastor or a sibling .parents , or if you don’t have anyone to talk to there is the Crisis Text Line you just Text to 741741 and a trained professional will help . If you feel like you want to harm yourself call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Please know they’re others out there that care about you. Also you mentioned your wife took your daughter, may I then assume your son is still with you ? Who is helping you care for him ? Maybe you can talk to them. You will be in my Prayers.