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My husband has anger issues. Things have gotten better after we separated for two years that was one year ago. I had to file an order of protection to get him out of the house. The last straw was CPS came to the house after my 17 yr who was 14 at the time told her teacher her father threatened to kill her. He would lose his temper, scream, call names but never raise his hands until the evening before school when he hit my daughter and threatened her. I was sleeping while this happened the yelling woke me up. I asked him to leave but he wouldn't. He told me this was his house and he wasn't going anywhere. I left with kids and stood with my mothers for the night. In the morning I filed an order of protection. That night he was served by the sheriff and was removed from the house. He has been in angry management and therapy ever since. He is much better but he's not where he needs to be. He still doesn't know how to discipline our 14 and 17yr children in a healthy way and has control issues. I'm stressed almost daily because of this. My daughter's self esteem has suffered thought the years which I blame myself for. I should have left him a long time ago. We have been married for 21 yrs. He has been emotional abusive to me and the kids for as long as I can remember. He has changed which I'm grateful for but it's not enough. I'm constantly anxious, stressed and depressed. I have lost myself and don't know how to find my way back. I feel so empty

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The right things are the toughest most times. You have taken the best steps for your family and I hope you get some solace from that. I hope this is a wakeup call for your husband to get the help he needs. I'm sorry you feel lost. This is an upheaval for anyone to go thru. I'm hoping you are kind to yourself and will be able to realize that sounds entirely understandable. We are here for you.

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Thank you 😊

That’s good he is getting help. Have you considered a 12 step program like codependents anonymous?

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I never heard of the program before. I googled it and found out I am codependent! I was described to a t. It's scary but an eye opener at the same time. I am grateful I found this forum and for your reply! Thank you from the bottom of my heart 😊

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You are welcome! ❤️

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