I fell in love with my best friend

[Malumaf]

I recently discovered I’m pansexual when I realized I was in love with my best friend Emily, (I’m a girl and so is she) and I told her, and she doesn’t know what to do about it and she’s just avoiding it, and I’m putting my life on hold, not dating anyone, not even going on dates, just waiting to see what she does, and she’s partying and seeing people and I just don’t know what to do cuz for years she said if I ever turned gay she’d date me in a heartbeat and now I guess it’s gotten to real for her and she’s pretending it’s not happening, what do I do?

[Agora1]

Malumaf, it sounds like she is either not ready or not interested. Sometimes we say things in the moment never thinking it may come back to haunt us. I wouldn't put your life on hold. We never know what tomorrow brings and by waiting for her to give you the answer you want, you are wasting your life. xx

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I feel old now. I had to google what pansexual means. I learned something new.

I would give her space. She might be confused about herself and trying to figure things out.

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What's it mean?

[Malumaf in reply to Hidden]

It means I’m attracted to the personality and not gender basically

[Hidden in reply to Malumaf]

That's beautiful..

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See malumaf’s reply. She got it right.