Losing a best friend

[LorenaRuby]

Hi, I’m new on here and I wanted to ask for advice. I struggle with moderate depression and I have recently cut ties with my best friend of five years because she manipulated me and took advantage of me. She was toxic and lied to me. There are a lot of good days when I am able to forget about her and go on with my daily life but it only takes one person or one thought to trigger my anger and anxiety. When we said our goodbyes it wasn’t the peaceful conclusion that I wanted or needed and I think that’s what still haunts me. I am continuously pulled back-and-forth to the past (the anger she’s caused me) and into the future (worrying about how to maintain any stable relationship). Since our goodbye I have gotten over what I call the “grieving process” because she was my only closest friend.

My question is and this might be rhetorical but what is the best way to forget about someone?

I think it’s kind of the easiest way to put it, and I wish there was a way someone could just extract all the memories of her out of my brain but it’s not that easy. I’m already kind of a forgetful person so in the beginning of saying goodbye I was doing great until my family started asking questions.

Thank you.

[lisabubbly]

yeah maybe it will work out with new friends but who knows maybe u guys can work it out. went thru similiar.. stay classy you seem it.

[LorenaRuby in reply to lisabubbly]

Thank you for your response. I wish we could but things have changed a lot between her and I. I’ve always missed that about her, the old her , but I can’t stick around and hope she’ll come back. We’re on different paths now, and I’m ok with that.

[Hidden]

Hi, I'm sorry you're going through this and I know exactly how you feel. I went through the same thing 10 year ago with my best friend of 40 years. She took advantage of family members which affected them financially. I couldn't trust her after that so I chose to end the friendship. It was devastating and heartbreaking but necessary. Like any broken relationship, you have to go through different stages, sadness/depression, anger, regret, acceptance. As the saying goes, time heals all wounds, and it applies here. Eventually, the times you think about your friend will be further and further apart. It will get easier in time.

[LorenaRuby in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your response. My situation was also necessary too, I didn’t like cutting the cord but it had to be done , the last two years of our friendship was a struggle I tried keeping it afloat but she didn’t put much effort into it. I could tell we were just drifting apart. And yes very true , time will take care of it.

[Jzphoenix]

Just be strong. The only way you will forget is let time go by. It will hurt but in the future you will look back and laugh and tell your self what was I thinking. Just be strong and let time do the rest. Just keep focusing on your life and your self. That’s what is most important.

[Hidden]

block them from all social media, that’s how i got over people