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I feel it getting bad again

We had to put our family pet down, We've had him for 13years. Ever since I was in elementary school. I know some will say, "He is just a pet" but it still hurts. Having him there everyday, to just nothing. It breaks my heart, it's been a week, and I already notice myself being isolate, not wanting to do anything, go anywhere, or be myself. Honestly I miss my Cat, Smokey more than anything. Growing up, he was always there for me, when No one else was. This is really hard for me.

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I've seen many, many people openly cry when their pet died. They feel like it's a family member.

Most of them "solve" the problem by getting another pet. I don't want to sound cold, but you have to remember that, compared to humans, dogs and cats simply don't live that long. If you're a dog or cat lover, you will have a number of them throughout your life.

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So sorry you lost your pet I lost mine in September



I’m so sorry you’re going through this . It is one of the most horrible things to go through.

I went through this a couple of years ago with my cat and honestly my world shattered.

I thought I would never get another and never stop crying. But I did x

I will say time heals ... it really does x

Hugs xx


So so sorry for your loss, it's true that the loss of a pet can be as painful as any other loss, you have to go through the grieving process, just like any bereavement it will be painful and difficult but eventually you'll be able to cope with this and remember with a comfortable heart, you will be able to smile when you think of the happy years you had together, you'll always have those memories, so for now, be kind to yourself, cry if you need to, allow yourself to grieve and allow time to pass, and don't you bat an eyelid at those who may say "it's only a pet" there the one's that will never have the joy from a pet as you have had because they don't have that special heart that you have, many many people will relate to how your feeling, you'll be ok though, just takes time :-) xxxxx big hugs


I too needed too hear that. Thx you

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I’m so sorry to hear about Smokey. I’m an old lady and have lost 6 cats and dogs in my lifetime. It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever go through.

When you lose a human family member, people will tell you how sad they are for your loss, and will listen as you talk about your lost loved one. But these same people can be quite dismissive when it comes to your non-human family.

As an example of how terrible it can be to lose a cat or dog, when we lost our lovely Harry the Westie 2 years ago, we were both distraught. My macho Scottish husband cried his eyes out, which he never did when his parents died.

I think it’s because losing a much-loved pet is a little like losing a child. (And I hope anyone who has lost a child and is reading this won’t be offended). You have this little creature who is totally dependent on you, and who loves you unconditionally. You are responsible for every aspect of their care, and you are the most important person in their life.

What you’re feeling is perfectly normal, and not a sign of mental illness. This is what happens when you invest your love in a pet. Take time to grieve. Make a little box or bag with Smokey’s collar and toys and anything else you associate with him. Cry as much as you need to.

If there is a God, he made a mistake in making the lives of companion animals so much shorter than human lives. Everyone who loves cats or dogs has to go through this so many times, it doesn’t seem fair.

Ultimately, I’ve found the only thing that helps is getting a new pet. You’ll never forget Smokey, of course you won’t. But if you can find a rescue cat in need of a home, you’ll have another little creature in need of care and love to look after. It won’t be the same, of course not. But I think giving a rescue cat a home would be a tribute to Smokey, in a way.

Take your time, don’t rush into anything, but when you’re ready, think about it.

Rest in peace, Smokey xx

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hi, I am sorry to hear of your loss. many say it can be the worst loss. pets are always there when you come home and give lot's of love, when they have gone there is a big emptiness in the home and your life.

I lost my dog jack aged 17 years on my 60th birthday last year. it still hurts. I had him cremated and found a rose named jack, so now I go out to the garden and talk to him. it will take time but it does get easier.

would you consider another pet,( I don't mean to replace your lost pet) maybe a rescue pet that way it would help both of you.

take care, what you are feeling is very normal x


Sorry about your cat. Please know that what you're feeling is normal. You need time to grieve. Try to talk to people and keep yourself busy these days that might help.

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Animals are part of the family. I know our dog is. I am so sorry for your loss.


I too lost my 12 cocker spaniels in one week 3 days apart. A week 1/2 ago. It devasted me, the quietness of the house makes me nervous. Try new coping skills. Hoping to get more puppies soon. They will never replace Ramsey and Duke, but i gotta lot of love to give. Hope u feel better soon. This too shall pass, one day at a time.


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