This is gonna sound wierd

[Daylightsaving]

So, after being really ill last September and October and recuperating until Christmas, having the shocking news about my sister in law' s terminal diagnosis then my mother in laws pneumonia and hospital admission then the sudden deaths of two cousins (sounds like the script of a a daytime melodrama). Whilst I have been trying to prioritise my own needs, I have just realised I have neglected my hair, which I used to dye a deep red which made me feel great as it felt like me. As I was not up to visiting the hairdresser for so long, my grey roots have grown through quite a bit and for a while I was fine with that but I'm now feeling more like myself more of the time, I'm missing my red hairas the grey around my face makes me look washed out. However, I know that it will take more frequent visits to keep the roots under control. I really want to go and discuss it with a hairdresser, I'm thinking of changing from my previous one as they were not very attentive and just wanted to do the same thing each visit. There are loads near where I live but I just can't seem to prioritise this and I don't know why.

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Daylightsaving,

I am very sorry about your losses. It's a lot of stresses to endure and it all adds up.

I did lose 2 cousins within a month.

When all the things were happening in my life, I was still trying to look after myself.

At some point I got other personal things happen and at that time it became harder to have regular visits to a hairdresser.

I found it hard the last time.

I have dark roots and blond highlights. Last 5 years or so I went blond and I felt really good with it but it's harder to care for my hair when I'm struggling with my health and other situations so now I only do highlights.

Stress really did a number on my hair (and my body).

It's important for me though as it is a part of my identity and I'm trying hard to hold onto something that helps right now.

I hope that when you are ready to go to hairdressing salon, you will be able to find someone caring and good at what they do. It's important to have a connection as it's very personal- they are touching me. I need to feel good otherwise my body feels like in danger.

It's important to find the right person.

[Daylightsaving in reply to Nathalie99]

Yes, it's really important to find the right person. I used to have a lovely hairdresser but she left and I started with the last one cos I just needed it doing and she had appointments but was never really happy with the service but kept going cos it was easier.