How Do I Deal With Neighbors????

I have horrible PTSD from my childhood that is connected with sexual and physical abuse. We have neighbors above us that constantly scream at eachother and throw things around. I've called the police 3 times in the 3 months we've lived here. The apartment complex's office says the neighbors will be evicted after courts open back up (after corona). Right now I'm huddled in a ball with headphones in, blaring music in my ears. I can't hear myself type or my cats mewing, even though I can see their mouths moving. I'm crying, and this has happened countless times.

How do I cope with all of this? I have to take large amounts of melatonin to sleep because its happening constantly. My mental health is already slipping and this really isn't helping.

I wish I could go to my friends house, or partner's dads place, but with Corona, plus my foot issue, I can't really go. (My foot has a bump that makes it difficult to walk)

Please let me know what you think I can do. Thank you

Stay Safe everyone!!

[Agara33]

im so sorry you have to deal with this, there are so many weird circumstances we are finding ourselves in now. i went to stay with my mom during the lock down as to be alone all the time would have been bad for me. Is there anyone you can go stay with?

One resort is subletting your place for another for a short time, Where I live often rent and sublet prices are lowered when there is construction near by. Maybe you could sublet your place for a lower price because of the noisy neighbours and find another place for yourself in the meantime.--or an air bnb if your area has them. That could be a last resort that you know you will have.

Is there a possibility that there is an abusive situation happening at your neighbours? Maybe there is some resource for domestic abuse that would help their situation. I don't know if there is any communicating with them...

if you find there is no immediate solution you can always see a dr. for medication that could help you at least for this period, if that feels right for you. we are all trying to get on as best we can.

Doesn't sound like there is any easy solution...sending support

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Ive called the police multiple times, because I do believe the woman might be getting abused. However, the woman will scream out the door about everyone needing to butt out (she didnt say it like that)

[peacefulandcalm Encourager]

hi DameHook, do you have a doc or psychiatrist?

Ativan helps me get through. Can get from doc or np or psychiat. Also, buspar is available and is not benzo. I have been wanting to test that one. I heard it helps too.

Valerian, magnesium, Ltheanine, camomile , all help to calm nerves. Natural. Not a doc though, so check with doc ok?

I am not recommending anything because I am not a doc of course, just it helps me to get through.

I also wear headphones. Sometimes ear plugs inside the headphones.

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I do have a therapist/psych doc. My headphones have been my savior

[Equis-Canine Volunteer]

Im so sorry you are dealing with this. I truly understand. The stressful times we are living in is creating a lot of angry people who don't know how to deal with their emotions.

One day I answered by doorbell and found a man yelling at me and acting aggressive. I was terrified Thank goodness my husband was home. We learned he was a neighbor from the next lane accusing us of damaging his fence. I spent part of the day curled up in a ball crying.

That happened a few weeks ago and I just learned he is verbally attacking another neighbor and telling lies to anyone he can. Now I'm all upset again.

[Nathalie99 Partner]

I really hope you can move temporarily until the situation is resolved. Don't have any advice but I'm very sorry you are going through this terribly triggering situation.

Have gone through childhood abuse too.