Car accident

[Amy591]

My boyfriend was hit by a speeding car at the end of 2017. He’s suffered small memory loss and bleed to the brain but he’s fine now. I was never able to talk to anyone about it or how I felt because we were all worrying about him. A young boy was hit and killed in the same place my boyfriend was yesterday and I was around when it happened. I’ve recently been told I could suffer from PTSD and because of the boy yesterday it was set my off and dragged me back down to a dark place. I was wondering if anyone is able to help/ talk because I’m pushing him and everyone around me away when it isn’t there fault

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Amy,

Welcome to our community.

This is a very traumatic thing and I am terribly sorry that this happened and you witnessed this.

It sounds like you were retriggered and that retriggering is recent.

Most importantly I think you might need to talk to someone about how this has impacted you.

I think it helps to get help asap after a new traumatic event.

I think each of us reacts differently and there isn't one universal way.

I lost someone in traumatic circumstances end of 2017 and the details are still very difficult to talk about. I have had really good support but am unfortunately still experiencing triggering from this.

Sending you strength and support...

[Amy591 in reply to Nathalie99]

Thank you for your help. I things get better for you x

[Nom-D-Ploom]

We are here. This is a safe place to vent. I am glad he is doing well now.

I just finished listening to a minster on controlling the brain. He said that everything we experience is forever in our brains. He said, "Memories become thoughts. If we accept the thoughts they become actions. Actions become habits and habits become identity." We have to reject the wrong thoughts. We are not guilty for what happened to us, or to someone close. We are not weak. We must reject seeing ourselves as victims. We survived. We are survivors.

[aujoymyjoy]

That is awful, watching a child be killed, knowing your boyfriend survived and the child didn’t. Anyone would struggle seeing something like that, but yours is much more personal. I’m sorry you witnessed that. Your response seems to me pretty normal, withdrawing and remembering the dark place, as long as you don’t stay there. If you can’t talk about it, just spend time around your boyfriend. He may think you are pulling away from him so reassure him it’s not HIM, it’s the feelings of deep sadness and pain you fear.

That is what I think. Take a tiny step toward him...... see what happens. He is equally afraid.

[Amy591 in reply to aujoymyjoy]

Thank you x