I am in the middle of some very intense theraphy and my T has often asked me why do I not feel the won't in around the events that happened to me as a child. We had a serious discussion about her style of working as I felt she wanted to parent me in the process and I felt that was not save for me and she is ok with that. But she cannot understand how I don't break down in the session and feel what I am talking about.
To me when I talk in the session I have to protect myself from feeling the stuff, otherwise I wouldn't be able to talk. I know a bit part of it is a trust issue.
Is it safe to trust someone to hold your feelings and not either ignore them or trample on them, in my world at the moment it's not.
Why can't they understand that some of us need to understand stuff more than we need to feel it. Feelings hurt.