hip op

[dillydally1]

hi, I've eventually had my operation on my hip. not a hip replacement. I had a large amount of hard calcification removed along with my bursa. 19 clips in total so quite a large wound. the consultant said it is quite rare in the hip. I have had 3 operations on my shoulder for calcification also. doing quite well only one week since operation. been non stop before and after operation. my dad had been in hospital and came home the day I went in. on the day I came out my mum was admitted to hospital. I live quite away from them, so had to sort social services etc out over the phone. my dad had to go into respite and my mum is 20 miles away from dad in rehabilitation. I live probably about 40 miles from their home. my husband and I don,t drive so I've been with son's couple times and for the rest in a taxi. visit dad then 20 more miles to visit mum. I get over as much as I can but feel very guilty not seeing them every day. fingers crossed we will all be back to some normality soon. oh yes my hubby had knee replacement 8 weeks ago. so many thanks to the nhs. xxx

[Fibrofoggiest]

Hi Dilly,

Gadzooks that sounds like an awful lot to be having to cope with all at the same time. I'm sure your mother and father perfectly understand that you can't visit every day having just had the op you've had, though I know that despite everything you may well feel guilty which you shouldn't !! You have to take care of you and obviously your hubby to some extent too, but I'm worried that you will do too much and end up with it being detrimental to your own health.

Sending lots of positive healing vibes for you and all of your family 😀😀

Foggy x

[dillydally1 in reply to Fibrofoggiest]

nice to hear from you foggy, thanks for the kind words. xx

[Fibrofoggiest in reply to dillydally1]

You are so welcome dilly, I wish there was far more I could do to help, sadly I can't, apart from sending you all lots of positive healing and strengthening vibes 😀😀

Foggy x

[dillydally1 in reply to Fibrofoggiest]

means a lot foggy. thanks. hope things are going ok with you. gentle hugs. dilly x

[Fibrofoggiest in reply to dillydally1]

Nothing a brain and body transplant wouldn't cure 😉😃😃

Foggy x

[dillydally1 in reply to Fibrofoggiest]

hehehe. I'm sure you don't need either xxxxxxx

[Fibrofoggiest in reply to dillydally1]

Oh I most certainly do, I'm de infinitely cerebrally challenged !! 😉😃😃

[Lou1064]

It does seem that your parents are being cared for , in no way should you feel guilty if you cant visit as much as you would like, take care of yourself, I have been in this situation and know how stressful it is. Hope you all recover well soon. Lou xx

[dillydally1 in reply to Lou1064]

thank you. xx

[Hidden]

OMG, how are coping, you must be exausted. Pls take care, we don't want you back in the hospital. Hopefully things will return to normal very soon for you and your lovely family.

Take care and pls rest.

Sending you lots of warm soothing, healing hugs,

Elizabeth xxxxx

[dillydally1 in reply to Hidden]

thank you. your thought and hugs are much appreciated x

[TheAuthor]

I am so genuinely sorry to read this as you have so much to deal with at this time. I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck. Please take care of yourself.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[dillydally1 in reply to TheAuthor]

thanks ken. keep the lovely garden pictures coming x

[ALKT]

im tired just reading about all that activity. you can only do so much could you use skype to keep in touch with your family. so you can get enough rest for your hip to heal. best wishes.

[dillydally1]

would be good but there 85 and wouldn't know anything about computer xxx

[rosewine]

So glad you have had op. and it has been succesful. Sometimes the timing of what happens in our lives does not always go to a wonderful plan and in your case everything seems to have gone up the spout at the same time.

You seem to be doing marvellously at the moment but as the others rightly say if we don't look after ourselves we can't look after others. I am sure that your parents realise that in your situation having just had an op, hubby still not up to speednd them in two different places it is just impossible for you to be in three places at once so please don't feel guilty. I know if we are the kind and caring sort of person which you absolutely are we always have a tinge of guilt if we put ourselves first but sometimes it is the only way to cope in the long term.

Keep in touch when you are not there by phoning to see how they are as it will be passed on, little notes and cards saying how much you love them. Sorry this is late I started the reply yesterday but had computer problems I think it is like me ailing!

[dillydally1 in reply to rosewine]

ah thanks for your lovely reply. the ward and the home let me speak to them on the phone. never thought about little notes and cards, I know its obvious but the fibro brain doesn't always work xx you take care. gentle hugs xxx