Terrible day

Today has been an absolutely horrendous day. My dad died suddenly after being taken into hospital on sat evening with a chest infection which quickly became pneumonia. They then found 3 cancer masses in his lungs then sepsis got him. He was talking to us at 4pm quite normally then at 7,45 he was taken. My dad was my everything. My mum died when I was 12 so dad brought us up. Being mum and dad my whole life. I don't know how I can cope without him. I feel the pain of the fibro worsening constantly throughout the day. It is gonna be an awful future.

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  • I am so sorry to hear about your dad. May he rest in peace. There are no words I could possibly say to take your pain away. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs

  • Please can I offer to you my deepest and sincerest condolences, and I genuinely and sincerely want to wish you all the best and my thoughts are with you at this sad time.

    All my hopes and dreams for you

    Ken x

  • Very very sorry juliekp for your very sad loss.

    I am thinking of you and sending huge hugs to wrap around you for a short while.


  • I'm so sad to hear of your terrible loss. The sadness and grief must be overwhelming for you. I hope you have other family around you along with good friends to support you.

    Please keep us informed of how you feel you're coping from now on if you feel it helps you. Sometimes having the support of of people like this might be helpful to you.

    Love and gentle hugs,

    Becky x

  • My heart goes out to you at this time of great sorrow. May your beloved Dad sleep peacefully with the comfort of the arch angels looking over him.

    Take solace if you can it such early days just remember when things are darkening around yo waits u Your Dather for you in another room and he sends his love as always to guide and protect you.

    Message me if you need someone to chat to

    Gebtle hugs


  • You sound like a kind lovely lady. I wish I knew you better.

    I'm not grieving but I do cry every day and don't know why?

    Your words are a type of comfort.

  • I am so very sorry for your loss Julie, and I wish I knew what I can say to help. Please remember how blessed you were to have him in your life.

    Gentle hugs

  • Thank you all for the lovely comments.

  • Words cannot express my sorrow for you, it is always the souls wish ,when they want to go to the love an light ,your Father new how I'll he was ,he just didn't want to worry you.please talk to his picture when you need him ,he will be near you at these time's ,you will feel his love overwhelm you. Remember sweet pea ? .please don't think I'm a nutcase ,I am a Clairvoyant ,not a psychic ,and I don't charge.my message is to comfort you ,to know that your farther is at peace ,and well .All my blessings and Love an light ,lots of Huggs

    J J x

  • Hi there I am sorry to hear about your sad news. My thoughts are with you. Hopefully as your dad's death was so quick he wasn't in pain. Be kind to yourself. X

  • Big warm hugs .. you must feel like you are in a nightmare

    My dad was my world I thought i couldnt live with out him ... I have 30 yrs on ...

    Take care of you

  • I'm so very sorry, julie, you are in my thoughts and prayers at this terrible time of loss. Just try to take one day at a time and don't think beyond coping with the present moment.

    I'm afraid grief will make the fibro worse, so please take very great care of yourself.

    Mim x

  • my deepest and sincerest condolences

  • I feel for you, I lost my husband 8 years ago and the pain is still there - although it does ease. Take each day as it comes. Be gentle on yourself. Accept all offers of help. Don't expect to suddenly be 'okay', grief is never 'got over' but you learn to live with it. xx

  • I am so sorry for your sad loss.. please take one day at a time and know you will come through this, at the moment you won't see how but give yourself time to heal and take everything slowly and you will come through this.. love and peace xxxx

  • So sorry for your loss, in my thoughts xxx

  • Dear Julie

    Please accept my sincerest condolences on your incredibly sad loss.

    It must feel like a double whammy as your dad brought you up without your mum.

    I do hope that you can take some small comfort that your mum and dad are now reunited once more and are looking over you.

    Do you have good people around you? As others have said, accept all offers of help. The first days and weeks, just take life one day at a time and try not to think much further ahead right now.

    Again, this has been said, but is true. You never get over losing a loved one. You just have to learn to live with it.

    Your Fibro will flare, so please do try to be kind to yourself. We are all here thinking of you.

    I am sending love and hugs your way.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers

    Lu xx

  • So very sorry for your loss xx

  • I'm so sorry for your loss Julie x

  • I'm really sorry for your sad loss. thinking of you and sending big hugs to you. take one day at a time, but also take care of yourself x

  • My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time xx💗

  • Gentle hugs and thoughts in your sad time xx

  • So sorry for the loss of your Dad, and so suddenly it must be such a lot for you to take in, my thoughts are with you, you will find the strength to get through this.

  • There is nothing any of us can say to ease your pain at the moment. He may have been taken suddenly but you have a lifetime of wonderful memories and maybe they will help get you through this very sad time.


  • Oh Julie, I've just read ur message and I have tears flowing from my eyes. This is such a sad story. I really feel your pain, I have no idea what you're going through and the next few days will be very sad and scary, but you will be strong and get through it.

    Your parents are together now that must be some comfort to you, but right now you need to give yourself time to get used to the shock.

    It was a complete shock, you weren't expecting it.

    Only then can you move on.

    Do you have many friends? Family? Sisters or/and brothers?

    Please don't feel too sad, let your tears flow they're a way of healing and you need to cry and allow time to grieve.

    You have friends on here.

    My thought are with you


  • dear julie, am so sorry to her about your dad. sounds like he was a very special father. know you will miss him. my dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer. he went in for surgery, got sepsis and died from the sepsis within a 6o day period. it was 20 years ago and there isn't a day that goes by that i don't think of him. he will always be a part of me as i know your dad will for you. i hurt for you remembering the pain. i didn't have fibro then but between dealing with all the doctors and my crazy mother i had stopped eating. that was a big mistake. you are going to need all your strength now so try to eat a bit throughout the day. you might want to talk with your doctor about your dads passing. i am not a doctor but might need to up medications if taking hydrocortisone or similar meds. please take care of yourself. we are all here for you...

  • dear juliekp.

    I am sorry to hear about your dad. my mum died at the age of 43, I was 18, she was my mum and best friend. my dad past suddenly from a heart attack at 69 years of age.

    anyway thoughts are with you as I type this. my condolences.

  • Oh dear julie, my heart goes out to you. I can only imagine your shock and sorrow at this time. I had weeks to prepare for my own Dad's parting, but it is always difficult. Please know that so many of us will be keeping you in our thoughts and also in prayer in the days ahead.

    With loving care and concern ... and gentle, soft hugs, bk

  • My condolences he will always be with you in your heart

  • I would just like to thank u all for your very kind and caring comments. The hugs feel really good at this time. Thank u again

  • So sorry for your loss. It's so sad your father passed so suddenly. You are understandably in shock. No one can take the heartache away but let your friends help you heal. We are all here for you. Blessings and prayers. Mx

  • Thinking of you I know wot you mean my dad passed away with in 7 weeks miss him like mad he was my rock my mum passed away 17 years ago big hug xxx

  • So sorry for your loss please just take each day and don't hold back on having a cry .my day died march 20 this year and still cry my eyes out the smallest thing will just reminds me of my dad father's day was hell for me it was my dad's birthday as well. My nan died 16 years ago now and she was my world it may sound silly to some but when I feel really low I talk to them I know they are not far away and I will be with them again one day that's what keeps me going and watching my girls grow up and I know they will be proud of them I wish I could say the pain goes away but it don't but it does get a bit better in time. Every day they will be in hearts,thought's and prays . so take care of yourself and remember your not alone god bless

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