Just annoyed and needed to rant a bit

[Guest135]

I am just annoyed at how some people can be so two faced and very selfish. There is a girl that I don’t get along with at all (S) and we have a mutual friend (O). O asked me and another friend if maybe we wanted to live together for 4th year (I am 2nd year uni) coz of placements and I was good with that. S asked O if she could live with her for 4th and didn’t even bother to consult me or the other friend even though S knows that O was going to live with us. I had lived with S for all of this year and we as a house have had many problems with her over the past year, but I was willing to put this aside and said ok when O asked me coz S didn’t really have anyone and I felt quite bad even though I didn’t want to live with S again. I had originally made a few plans with O and another girl a while back and S decides that she is going to self invite herself and then decide to change the date to tomorrow, I said I cannot do tomorrow and can do the day as originally planned, and everyone has decided that tomorrow is best just so S can come. I am really annoyed coz all of this year S has only been rude to me, the amount of times she has bitched but when she had it tough, I was the only one in the house that showed her any support and now she seems to be self inviting herself to all my plans. She self invited herself to plans that I had made with another group of my friends, I hate it! I got really mad and told the other girls that I want to live on my own for 4th year instead. I am annoyed that she thinks she can just barge in like that and almost push it, I don’t know why I have to back down and say I want to go to a studio when she is the newcomer here? Am I overdoing it or should I have not said that to the other girls?

[Babe1213]

Babe1213 - It is quite obvious thee is more to this than meets the eye. The chances of all of you settling down without problems is slim. Walk away. Take a good long, hard look at your own attitude and what YOU want, your studies are ever important! Look into other possibilities. There will be some!

[OpenWindow]

I highly recommend a step back and take a breath. Stop talking. You sound like a kind person who is irritated and feeling displaced by S, and you may be feeling unappreciated and unheard or ignored by your friends. Your friends probably see the negative interactions with S, too, and it can be baffling to them. Show your friends that you're still the kind friend they know and love. My father used to say, "people eventually tell on themselves" which is like people showing their true colors. Be your kind self. One or two missed plans isn't the long game. Write kind notes to your friends *yes, on paper) and take the time to nurture the friendship. I would ignore S' remarks or negative rudeness unless it needs to be called out with a word, "rude" at the time. She may be jealous of your friendship and sees you as the weak link she can replace. Is S playing on the sympathies of your friends? She seems to be succeeding if you decide to leave your friends? Talk with your friends in a heart to heart. Ask them if they want you to stay and will support you if S is rude. But try not to be thin skinned about S if they decide S should stay for some reason. This might sting a bit, so talk with your friends. Or will you find more peace and perhaps, other friends, if you take your kind self elsewhere?